I’m 17 years old and have been diagnosed with depression and generalized anxiety disorder for quite some time. In February, I started anti-depressants for the first time. I started taking Paxil. I knew that with SSRIs there is a great risk of lowered sex drive and anorgasmia, but it was what was recommended for me because of my symptoms.
I was on it for maybe four weeks when I noticed that masturbation wasn’t quite the same. I could orgasm, sort of, but it took double the time and it wasn’t a build up and release like usual, it was more like a build up then a... nothing. It left me more tired and frustrated than satisfied.
So after about six weeks, because of the orgasm issue and reading a lot about Paxil online, I decided to switch medications. I started taking Effexor two and a half weeks ago. The doctor told me it may not have that unfortunate side-effect, but that since it’s similar to an SSRI, I shouldn’t count on it.
I figured that sex may be different, because I masturbate with clitoral stimulation. I’d been having problems with my boyfriend, so we hadn’t had sex for the entire time I was on Paxil, but we’ve made up and much to my disappointment I discovered that I can no longer orgasm from PIV sex either. I always considered myself lucky because I most certainly could orgasm from PIV sex, but now I’m saddened by the loss of my orgasms.
I still have a sex drive like crazy (which has always been normal for me), and sex feels great, but I just can’t get there.
I asked the doctor about Wellbutrin because supposedly it doesn’t have sexual side-effects, but he told me it would be bad for my anxiety. That was surprising to me because I read on the official website that it’s prescribed for generalized anxiety disorder. I really don’t think that I can not take anything, because I really do see that it’s helping me, but on the other hand, it’s depressing me to not be able to orgasm.
I’ve been to an Effexor LJ community and one person laughed at me, saying I shouldn’t care about orgasms at my age, I thought that was completely ridiculous and I’m sure you all will agree. Another person told me that Effexor is horrible and shouldn’t even be legal. They ended their comment by welcoming me to “hell.”
So I turn to you all here at VP. I apologies for getting quite wordy, I always do, but can anyone provide me any advice or experiences? Thank you very much, in advance.