12:23 pm - 01/04/2007

labia color / trimming hair

hi this is my first time posting. this community is so informative!

basically, my question is about color. ive looked at pictures of vaginas and
they are always pink.
the outermost parts of my inner labia are almost black-it looks dirty! im so
ashamed of my vagina because of it! i also have dark coloring high on my inner
thighs. i think it looks horrible and it makes me self-conscious when my
boyfriend goes down on me.

is there anyway to get rid of the dark color and restore it to its natural
pink/red color?

also, when you trim your pubic hair-how short should you trim it? would it be
better to just shave? when my boyfriend went down on me he ended up getting a
hair stuck in his mouth (i dont shave or anything) and i really want to improve
reahbobia 4th-Jan-2007 05:32 pm (UTC)
Not sure about the color issue but I wouldn't worry about it because everyone is different. :)

For shaving, I use an electric shaver, like a beard shaver. I use to use just a razor but I would itch and it would be too prikly (so my hubby says) when it sarts growing back. :) So I just use the electric razor and clean it up. I feel so much better when it is all short.
finemadness 4th-Jan-2007 05:33 pm (UTC)
are you looking at airbrushed/porn vulvas? if so, that is why all of them are pink. if you look at the 'everyday bodys project' on the vagina pagina community tags you will see that there are all different kinds. its normal for people to have a different skin color in genitals and creases of the body just as it is normal to be all one color.

with the hair you can just trim it if it makes you uncomfortable to a managable lengh. pubic hair isnt evil but do whatever makes you feel best.
pageless 4th-Jan-2007 05:35 pm (UTC)
Having darker skin in those areas, as well as your underarms/other 'jointed' areas, can actually be signs of worse conditions. One such being diabetes. I think it's something to do with blood sugar levels. I also have this problem, and have been told it's associated with my PCOS. :/ I suppose if you got treatment for your worse ailment, it would go away, but since it's really just cosmetic so far as you're saying, ya shouldn't worry too much. :)
h0rsegurrrl 4th-Jan-2007 09:02 pm (UTC)
Do you think a gyno would mention it if they thought the dark color had to do with diabetes or PCOS or something? Pretty much my whole vulva is that dark shade of funky brown-black, but I'm not at any risk for diabetes and I don't have PCOS, and my gyno has never mentioned it or suggested it was abnormal. Did your gyno mention suggest it to you or did you bring it up?
pageless 4th-Jan-2007 09:07 pm (UTC)
I brought it up. My woes are hereditary, so I knew what to expect, though. It could of course be entirely natural! Trying to find a reason for the problem always helps people feel better though, so they know they're not freaks and have no control over their bodies. :) Good luck.
printjunkie 4th-Jan-2007 05:39 pm (UTC)
As long as your vulva doesn't look like it's going to drop off it's a healthy colour.
drink_of_lethe 5th-Jan-2007 08:29 pm (UTC)
ahaha - sorry this is o.t., but your icon just made me burst out laughing. :)
lothlorienbaby 4th-Jan-2007 05:43 pm (UTC)
I use a razor to shave the pubic hair that would show when I'm wearing underwear, but for the rest I just use a pair of scissors to trim it back a little. I don't feel the need to shave it all off; I just prefer it to not be so long. But it's all about what you want to do and a little bit of considering what your boy wants (some women shave for their boys).

And as for coloring, that is what is normal for you. And any man worth his salt isn't going to care.
scien 4th-Jan-2007 05:48 pm (UTC)
Shaving can be problematic. Probably the easiest way to get rid of just the bulk of hair is to trim with scissors, or with an electric trimmer if you want it very short and even. But if you want to shave it off completely there are lots of useful tips around.
ncsu_lady 4th-Jan-2007 06:42 pm (UTC)
When I trimmed, i found that a pair of cuticle scissors was the best thing. If i happened to slip and nick myself, it wasnt a large gash or anything like that.

Short depends on preference. I would just use two fingers to hold the hair and cut along it (like what a hairstylist does when they cut hair). So my hair was about the width of my forefinger. It leaves enough to can coverage for the most part, and you don't have to do it every day or every other day.

Now I wax, but thats because he loves it.
stateofwonder 4th-Jan-2007 07:07 pm (UTC)
Vulvas are not always pink! Whatever colour yours is, is natural for you. My inner labia are a dark purple.

I would recommend checking out the everyday bodies project on vaginapagina so that you can get a good variety of represenations of vulvuas, not just the pink kind.

As for trimming, I leave it about a third of an inch long, but it's completely up to you.
lucidtheory 4th-Jan-2007 08:04 pm (UTC)
I agree with the other posters on color - it's very normal, just be comfortable with it. No guy should care, it's just part of who you are, like your hair or eye color. Be proud you have a healthy functional vagina - just imagine the problems you COULD have!

I like to trim instead of shave because I hate how long shaving takes, and the razor bumps and itching. I trim with a hair trimmer that I think is meant for guy's beards, but basically hair trimmer will do. It's small and you can adjust the length you want it cut to and then just run it over your hair. It works great and leaves everything nice and short and even and clean-looking.
sparkle_lite 4th-Jan-2007 09:04 pm (UTC)
My inner labia are grayish at the tips also. Sometimes they look a little "ashy" and a little unscented lotion really helps to "brighten" them up. They go from pink to gray, but there is nothing wrong with them. Also, unless your guy is a virgin, chances are he's seen a few vag's and he knows how drastically different they can be. Has he said anything about it?

on trimming...I trim while the hair is dry, I just fluff up the hair, straighten it out with fingers and snip with scissors. But that's only for the "triangle" or "landing strip" part. I use an organic vegetable soap and razor for shaving my outer lips and the area between my legs. I always use a Venus razor or one with a couple of blades, otherwise the shaving takes forever with a disposable razor. My BF calls it a "Mullet cooch"...I can't shave the whole thing because I cannot bear the itching that comes with all the ingrown hairs.
whiteraevyn 4th-Jan-2007 09:13 pm (UTC)
I like my pubes nice and short, and groomed. I use my husband's beard trimmer on the lowest setting. I also shave the sides inward towards the lips.

Really it's a matter of personal preference. For a long time I just trimmed with scissors. :D
8daze_a_week 4th-Jan-2007 09:44 pm (UTC)
Your coloring is definitely normal dear! Every woman has different coloring in that area..for some the skin can be dark purple/black.
queensugar 4th-Jan-2007 10:47 pm (UTC)
Let me assure you that as long as my labia have anything to say about it, pink or red most definitely isn't the only normal labia colour!

Other commenters are quite right about the airbrushing that you see in porn. And some women, of course, have very pink or reddish labia. But many of us have labia that are every imaginable shade from brown to black and everything in between... even kinda purplish-brown, sometimes. :) That's just a natural colour variation between women.

It might make you feel better to check out our Everyday Vulvas Project. There's pictures there of our members' vulvas that they sent in for use in the project -- and as you can see, there's many different colours of inner labia.
monalisia access restricted10th-Jan-2007 06:18 am (UTC)
hey - i can't seem to access the everyday vulvas project. why? :(
queensugar Re: access restricted10th-Jan-2007 12:16 pm (UTC)
You have to be a member of VP and logged in in order to see the project.
grneyedgoddess 4th-Jan-2007 11:21 pm (UTC)
I agree 100% with the different shade of a womens body and urge you to check out the Everyday Project - it rocks!

I just wanted to add that dark skin in creases can also be dry skin building up. Exfoliating gently - because the skin can be more fragile there - and using lotions with agents meant for exfoliating can really help.

As for hair - I keep it trimmed very short with an electric razor and shave for special occasions. :)
grneyedgoddess 4th-Jan-2007 11:26 pm (UTC)
I meant crease on legs, thighs, etc..not vulvas. O.o I didn't even consider that until I reread. Please don't exfoliate or put lotion on your inner vulva! Gosh. lol
teenybeanie1 5th-Jan-2007 02:57 am (UTC)
I have the same coloring you do. I do have PCOS and I assume the coloring is related to that. I had one guy put off by it, but he didn't mind once he 'dug in".

I was going to submit a picture of my vulva for that very same reason. Hmm next time I will make a point to do so!
oublei 5th-Jan-2007 03:43 am (UTC)
I second the suggestions to look at the Everyday Bodies Project; you aren't alone. ;)

I trim to half-an-inch sometimes, I let it grow out sometimes, I shave sometimes. Try some things out and see what you like best :]
shadowshow 5th-Jan-2007 02:22 pm (UTC)
It's terrible that women have to wonder about these things so often. Over the past few years, I've seens a lot about how porn stars are having their labia trimmed and BLEACHED to make the skin look pink. I spent some time in LA over the summer, and magazines/newspapers were full of ads for vaginal surgery and bleaching.

Rest assured, you are normal...the typical images presented to us are not a fair representation of real bodies!
chibiluv 5th-Jan-2007 04:26 pm (UTC)
changes in color and even texture are normal. I've noticed that on days when I am a bit dehydrated my labia tends to turn a few shades darker. As for the thighs, are you overweight? I have a few extra pounds on me and as a result have dark spots where my thighs rub together. I've heard that losing the weight will get rid of these.

Self esteem issues, are another thing...
I used to have a real problem with the way my vagina looked. Even though I had seen pictures of normal vaginas and could recognize mine as not being at all unusual I still thought it was ugly and was sure that my boyfriend thought so too. I never let him go down on me and we always had sex in the dark. One day I told my boyfriend about my worries and he was shocked. He made me get out a mirror and look at myself and then pointed out how nice he thought my vagina was and which parts were his favorite. It wasn't an instant fix, but with his help I eventually accepted my vagina as something cool and beautiful. Tell your boyfriend about your insecurities. If he hated your vagina he wouldn't go down on you. I'm willing to bet he thinks you're wonderful just the way you are.
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monalisia phew10th-Jan-2007 06:15 am (UTC)
Girls in porn magazines always seem to have perfect genitalia, tidy, trim - perfectly pink labia that do not hang out! I'm a virgin and always worried that I was abnormal. No one told me that dark coloured labia that have a mind of their own are perfectly normal - and i was too embarrassed to ask. Reading your comments has really eased my mind. Thanks ladies. Now I'm off to see what non air brushed vulva look like ;)
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