Larushka (silentseanymph) wrote in vaginapagina,

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Just had sex for the first time, and I have questions.

I'm a 28-year-old cisfemale, and I had sex for the first time a couple of nights ago (huzzah!).  I now have various "am I normal" questions I was hoping you lovely people could shed some light on.

1) It was painful - probably around a 7 on a scale of 1-10.  My partner was probably the girthiest thing I have ever had in my vagina before, and we didn't use lube.  I was plenty wet (more on that below), but am I correct in thinking that lube would have helped/will help next time?  It seems to me that being "stretched" (for lack of a better term) that far would have been uncomfortable in any event...but would it, though?  For clarification, I would describe the pain as feeling like a particularly gnarly Pap smear or pelvic exam.  I did not have any pain afterward, other than some stinging around the entrance of my vagina when I pee.

2) I bled afterward.  It looked like I had gotten my period when I went to the bathroom and wiped, and over the next 24 hours it steadily tapered off into spotting before stopping altogether.  This is normal, yes?  (Logically I know it is, but my overemotional Anxious Brain needs some validation!)

3) Is it possible to be wet without being aroused?  I masturbated to orgasm about three hours or so before teh secks, and it's usually difficult for me to have a second orgasm, or even get turned on to that degree, in that space of time.  As I said above, I was wet and wanted to have sex with this person, but I didn't feel *aroused* the way I do when I've just read or watched something that turns me on and I haven't seen to myself in a while.  Would I be correct in thinking that refraining from masturbation so that my arousal isn't affected by my "refractory period" could also help next time?   
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