1) It was painful - probably around a 7 on a scale of 1-10. My partner was probably the girthiest thing I have ever had in my vagina before, and we didn't use lube. I was plenty wet (more on that below), but am I correct in thinking that lube would have helped/will help next time? It seems to me that being "stretched" (for lack of a better term) that far would have been uncomfortable in any event...but would it, though? For clarification, I would describe the pain as feeling like a particularly gnarly Pap smear or pelvic exam. I did not have any pain afterward, other than some stinging around the entrance of my vagina when I pee.
2) I bled afterward. It looked like I had gotten my period when I went to the bathroom and wiped, and over the next 24 hours it steadily tapered off into spotting before stopping altogether. This is normal, yes? (Logically I know it is, but my overemotional Anxious Brain needs some validation!)
3) Is it possible to be wet without being aroused? I masturbated to orgasm about three hours or so before teh secks, and it's usually difficult for me to have a second orgasm, or even get turned on to that degree, in that space of time. As I said above, I was wet and wanted to have sex with this person, but I didn't feel *aroused* the way I do when I've just read or watched something that turns me on and I haven't seen to myself in a while. Would I be correct in thinking that refraining from masturbation so that my arousal isn't affected by my "refractory period" could also help next time?