I'm kind of at my wit's end here. I'm 29, cis hetero female, almost 30 and I've never been able to have an orgasm. I've been masturbating since I was a kid, I've tried all sorts of tricks (shower head, vibrator...), I've had 4-5 sexual partners, and while I enjoy sex/touching/oral, I've never been able to come. I don't even know what it feels like to come. I seem to get close and then it just never happens. My partners have all told me it felt like I was about to come and then for some reason I didn't.
I don't think my clitoris is overly sensitive, or maybe the hood is quite thick. I find shaving helps a lot, but that irritates my vulva and often leads to BV and ingrowns, so I try to minimise the shaving. I've been looking into getting a VCH piercing, as apparently they can help a lot, but worry that it could make my issues even worse. I don't know what else to try.