I'm about 5 months postpartum. At like 3 months, I was declared healed and got an iud placed. The day of the followup (to make sure the IUD was placed correctly), I peed right before and felt a small pain when I wiped and saw a couple drops of blood. The midwife said she saw a small tear in my vagina and thought I hadn't really healed entirely, and suggested using oil to keep it moist and sitz baths to help heal.
That was in maybe early December? I have the baby and it was the holidays and I only took sporadic care of it during that time, but after Christmas I started being serious about doing at least one sitz bath with some Epsom salts every day and applying coconut oil whenever I could throughout the day. I've been treating it that way ever since, and there is still what my partner says looks like a small ulcer there. It's gotten smaller, but isn't going away.
I called and made an appointment for the doctor to take a look at it next week. In the meantime, I am feeling worried. Has this happened to anyone else? Any idea why I'm healing so slowly? Why an ulcer? Also, I have to ask: with my first baby, I tore very very badly, and the scar tissue was painful for a long time. In an effort to be encouraging I think, my OB said to try and have sex anyway if I wanted to and that doing so - with lots of lube and so on - would help get elasticity back. And then she said "use it or lose it", I think in regard to vaginal elasticity/strength/general sexual well being of my vagina. So now that I'm 5 months postpartum and battling a wound that isn't healing and holding a baby all the time anyway, and not having sex - am I um, going to lose it? Because I certainly am not using it. I feel silly, but anxious about that.
Ok thanks for reading! I'm off to have another sitz bath. Or maybe not until tomorrow because I'm feeling sort of defeatist about it. :/