She has a borderline personality disorder, has been tested as highly gifted, and has discovered her sexuality.
We have taught all our children that their body is their own, and only they have the right to decided what happens with it. So, you know, nobody is allowed to touch it if they don't want it.
Our daughter has now started to hang out with older boys and lets them use her. When I came home yesterday I ran into two of them as they were saying good bye to our naked daughter, and it was obvious what they had been doing.
Once they were gone my daughter and I got into a huge fight, where she used everything we had taught her against me.
She said it was her body, and I had no right to tell her who could touch it (or who could not).
She said we had always told her that exploring your sexuality was nothing to be ashamed of.
She said that we had always told her that home was a Safe Place, and there was no need for uncomfortable sex in a doorway when she could have sex at home (we have a drawer full of condoms, because of safer sex).
She is using all the things we have taught her to protect her, and is using them to justify letting those guys use her. Because it is essentially that.
I want to protect her, but I have the feeling that whatever I do would only make things worse.