Today (or yesterday depending on your location) I finally lost my V-Card! At age 23 no less. Better late than never, right? Anyways, I have some questions because things didn't run quite as smoothly as I'd hoped.
We had intended to participate in PIV but when he tried to enter me (and he did succeed) it felt like such an intense burning/tearing/searing pain that I couldn't take it and he had to pull out. We tried a few different times, and each time I was fairly wet so it shouldn't have been too much of an issue. He then tried to use his fingers, however one finger I could hardly register and two hurt too much, so we both ended up just masturbating while we made out (which was still amazing). I've long suspected that I may have vaginismus, especially since I went through some pretty unpleasant situations growing up (won't get too triggery here). Is there a way for us to work through this without me experiencing agonizing pain?
Another issue I had was under-sensitivity. I know every person's level of sensitivity is different, but this just didn't seem normal. He would tease my nipples with his tongue or teeth and I couldn't really feel anything, or when I did it was painful. He tried stimulating my clit but same issue: either too hard or didn't register, and that was after me telling him exactly how I do it myself. He even went down for oral which I always thought would work really well on me but I just didn't really feel anything (though he did say I was the best he ever tasted so it was not all for nothing!)
What's the deal? Is this normal? I enjoyed myself but feel it shouldn't have been this tedious.