I've never really spoken about this to everyone, but this seems like a good place to possibly get answers without coming across as some idiotic teenaged girl.
I am 19 years old, and until recently a virgin. My boyfriend and I have had sex several times now, but always at the start (no matter how much foreplay, 20mins etc) has been done, I always get pain. Before we actually had sex (several months beforehand infact) we have fooled around, doing other things and I'd never had an issue.
Like normal, the first-time hurt (but not extremely) but more of an over-sensitive muscle being stretched and nothing else so I pegged this down as normal. The next few times though, it has been painful. The pain does lessen, eventually, but doesn't completely stop though out the whole time. But I can 'block' it out, so to speak after the first 5 or so minutes.
The other day, he wanted me to be on top. Naturally I agreed, wanting to try. But this was more painful then ever. In the end I had to get him to start everything off before I could even try again (and the movement still pained). We also tried several other positions, (doggy style etc) but that was properly the worst the pain has been, and I had to stop.
I also have PCOS to the extreme form and rarely (possibly every 18+ months) get my period as well as many more issues 'down there'. Could this be caused by an over sensitivity from this? Or do I have something else wrong with me?
Ive tried to speak to him about it, but he doesn't seem to understand and tends to run away from all things girlie. But now he's gotten to a stage where he doesn't want to start sex (feeling like he is hurting me, pressuring me into pain) so I've been initiating it.
Don't get me wrong, I like having sex. I enjoy being close to him and everything that comes with it. I just want the pain to stop...so we can explore more things? If that makes any sense....thanks