I am a 20 year old female. I used to have a pretty high sex drive but lately I do not want sex. I was on bc pills and then Skyla but they both messed with me so I'm currently not on any bc. We use condoms, fam and withdrawal. So when I got the Skyla sex became super painful and it only recently got better even though I've had it out for almost 4 months. I think that I now have a fear of sex and that's why I don't want it anymore. Like I will be interested but once I think about actually having sex I immediately am turned off and uninterested. Does anyone have any ideas on how I could make myself less scared? I think that it is all completely mental but I don't know how to fix it. I know that I am a little bit depressed but I don't think that has anything to do with it because I've always been a little depressed. That brings me to my next question though. Does anyone take St. John's Wort? I was just reading on it and it sounds like it can help with libido and depression. Does it work for you? I have no medications that it could mess with. Does anyone take sarsparilla or passion flower for libido? I just read that they can both help. Also where would I find them? Another problem is that my boyfriend is depressed. He hates doctors and medicine though. Could St. Johns Wort work for his depression? I know you aren't doctors or anything but do you know of anyone that it has helped? Thanks so much!