12:37 pm - 02/09/2014

Links Round Up: Week Ending 7 February 2014

Hi and welcome to the latest installment of our Links Round Up. :)

For folks who don't know, the LRU is a compilation of items from the past week that may be of interest to VPers and is intended to broaden the kinds of conversations we have here.

To submit articles for next week's round-up, e-mail vpteam@vaginapagina.com. If you have additional articles you'd like folks to know about this week, feel free to comment directly to this post.

As a reminder, in lieu of trigger warnings, I use keywords describing the themes of the piece. Please skim these before deciding to read the excerpt or click through for the full article. Outside sources are not safe spaces, and mainstream sources' comments should almost always be avoided. The links I highlight don't necessarily reflect VP's views, or even my own, for that matter.

This week's round-up includes: tattoos and feminism, families and workplace flexibility, pushing back against privilege, and happy boobs.

  1. Feminism under my skin? at I was a high school feminist (Keywords: feminism, tattoos, beauty standards, body policing)
    I love when an article with a headline like “What’s the real reason for women getting tattoos?” or “Painted ladies: Why women get tattoos” shows up in my Twitter feed. I always click on them snarkily (can you click snarkily?), thinking, “oh goody, someone will FINALLY explain to me why I have this thing on my back!”

  2. Family Values? US Has The World's Least Flexible Workplaces by Joshua Holland at Crooks and Liars via Moyers & Company (Keywords: families, employment, family leave, child care, elder care, gender)
    We’ve moved to an economy where most mothers are breadwinners, where people increasingly have responsibilities for aging family members, even as they’re employed in the workplace. And yet, we haven’t really thought about how we need to revamp our workplace policies to make sure that those people who have caregiving responsibilities are able to stay in jobs, move up the ladder, not have this every day conflict between work and family that makes it impossible for them to do their job well and to be a good family member.

  3. 4 Ways to Push Back Against Your Privilege by Mia McKenzie at Black Girl Dangerous (Keywords: power, privilege, race, gender, sexual orientation, activism)
    I’ve often said that it’s not enough to acknowledge your privilege. And, in fact, that acknowledging it is often little more than a chance to pat yourself on the back for being so “aware.” What I find is that most of the time when people acknowledge their privilege, they feel really special about it, really important, really glad that something so significant just happened, and then they just go ahead and do whatever they wanted to do anyway, privilege firmly in place. The truth is that acknowledging your privilege means a whole lot of nothing much if you don’t do anything to actively push back against it.

    I understand, of course, that the vast majority of people don’t even acknowledge their privilege in the first place. I’m not talking to them. I’m talking to those of us who do. If we do, then we need to understand that acknowledgement all by itself isn’t enough. No matter how cathartic it feels.

    So, what does pushing back against your privilege look like?

  4. Happy Boobs by Brittany at Brittany, Herself (Keywords: breasts, bras, body image -- contains photo and video of people in bras)
    I have been in an abusive relationship with my breasts.

    At 8 bound them down with ace bandages, at 17 they hung below the table during strip poker, and at 28 they began to rest adorably in my arm pits when I lay down. I’ve spent over two decades hating them, cursing them, and stuffing them into ill fitting pretty things.

    I want to be really poetic here and say, oh but they are beautiful vessels that nourished my children, but the truth is, they still fucking suck.

In case you missed it, also check our most recent MMMMonday post on sexism and Super Bowl ads.

Finally, as always, feel free to share your thoughts on any of these articles, along with what you've been reading or writing this week!
quietchildae 9th-Feb-2014 07:51 pm (UTC)
Having just gotten my very first, and very visible tattoo, the first link resonates with me a lot. I had very visible and highly unique surface piercings at one point, and was appalled at what people felt they had a right to say to and about me in regards to them, and more so that people felt they had a right to touch me/my piercings at any given time (people would walk up behind me and touch my nape piercings = uhhh no??!??). Now having a tattoo, which in my case does happen to be deeply meaningful to me, but also something that is very trendy in a certain crowd, it's interesting how people judge me by it. It's a fascinating social experiment.

The second is also interesting to me, as I work in a very conservative, male dominated industry, and the level of dismissiveness of the work involved in childcare, or any sort of home care is fascinating. They fired the woman in my job previously for needing to take more time off to take care of her new baby. And are generally very disrespectful of anyone who happens to take time off to take care of "family issues." (Regardless of the fact that most of them have wives at home who make their lives functional for them.)
fallconsmate 9th-Feb-2014 10:35 pm (UTC)
i have 11 tattoos, 5 earlobe piercings, a cartilege piercing in one ear, and a nose piercing. my mother had a conniption at the nose piercing and pulled out the antiquated biblical thing of "but i want to see you in heaven!" (aka the idea that you are not supposed to mark your bodies as the heathens do)

*eyeroll* i'm 50 goddamned years old.

the bra thing really gets to me, not only the idea of the normally ill fitting bras that you can find inexpensively, but the LACK of nice fitting FRONT fastening over-the-shoulder-boulder-holders. i have what appears to be frozen shoulder syndrome, and cannot lift my hands far enough up to unfasten a bra. hell, i cannot lift my hands WAIST high behind me. its a pain in the rear, to be sure.
chamilet 10th-Feb-2014 06:36 pm (UTC)
Hmmmm. Firefox, IE and Chrome wouldn't connect to the site re: Family Values and Safari allowed me to connect but my workplace blocked it. Now I'm curious as hell as to what the article has to say!!
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