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Links Round Up: Week Ending 9 June 2013

Hi and welcome to our latest edition of the Links Round Up!

For folks who don't know, the LRU is a compilation of items from the past week that may be of interest to VPers and is intended to broaden the kinds of conversations we have here.

To submit articles for next week's round-up, e-mail frolicnaked@vaginapagina.com. If you have additional articles you'd like folks to know about this week, feel free to comment directly to this post.

As a reminder, in lieu of trigger warnings, I use keywords describing the themes of the piece. Please skim these before deciding to read the excerpt or click through for the full article. Outside sources are not safe spaces, and mainstream source's comments should almost always be avoided. The links I highlight don't necessarily reflect VP's views, or even my own, for that matter.

This week's round-up includes: telling partners about STIs; why Finnish babies sleep in cardboard boxes; misogyny, comedy, and rape threats; the white male gaze and hijabs; and age restrictions on emergency contraception.

  1. #484: “How do I minimize embarrassment when telling a partner that I have a body and a past?” by Elodie Under Glass at Captain Awkward (Keywords: sex, sexually transmitted infections, herpes, partners, stigma)
    After all, both STDs and your partner[s] are parts of your life. Think about how you talk about your sexual needs outside of the STD – for example, a person might not like to have sex while they’re menstruating. If you menstruate, in this example, you probably feel quite comfortable communicating it to your partner. You may smooth this communication by marking dates on a calendar, or by mentioning that you’ve scheduled a pill break for next week, or by shouting “GUESS WHO ISN’T PREGNANT” through the house, or by hanging a special series of semaphore flags over the bed – I don’t know; I don’t know your life. But you will probably manage to communicate times when you won’t be wanting sex in a way that feels comfortable to you. Just because you are in a sexual relationship doesn’t mean that you and your partner[s] have unlimited access to everybody’s body parts at every hour of the day. And this doesn’t change when you have a headache, when you are sick, or when you are having an outbreak.

  2. Why Finnish babies sleep in cardboard boxes by Helena Lee at BBC News (Keywords: babies, parenting, government, care packages, parenting support, infant mortality)
    For 75 years, Finland's expectant mothers have been given a box by the state. It's like a starter kit of clothes, sheets and toys that can even be used as a bed. And some say it helped Finland achieve one of the world's lowest infant mortality rates.

  3. If Comedy Has No Lady Problem, Why Am I Getting So Many Rape Threats? by Lindy Weest at Jezebel (Keywords: comedy, misogyny, rape, rape threats, violence)
    Let me be clear: I don't believe that previously non-raping audience members are going to take to the streets in a rape mob after hearing one rape joke. That's an absurd and insulting mischaracterization. But I do believe that comedy's current permissiveness around cavalier, cruel, victim-targeting rape jokes contributes to (that's contributes—not causes) a culture of young men who don't understand what it means to take this stuff seriously.

  4. Why Do White Guys Hate My Hijab? by Zainab Khan at The Feminist Wire (Keywords: women of color, race, hijab, male gaze, clothing, street harassment)
    That’s when it hit me, “So that’s why these white guys hate my hijab – the way I look interrupts their ‘cruises for chicks.’” More specifically, the way I dress denies them their privileged white male gaze – a privilege that society has taught them is their right, especially over women of color.

  5. A Teen to Obama on Emergency Contraception: Stop Patronizing Me by Hannah Weintraub at RH Reality Check (Keywords: teens, sex, emergency contraception, US, Obama administration, health care access)
    For example, while the administration’s plan allows women age 15 and up to purchase emergency contraception, it says that a store clerk must first verify a woman’s age before she is allowed to buy the drug. For many but not all adults, proof of age is a non-issue if they have driver’s licenses or state-issued identification at the ready. But let’s be real: Many 15-year-olds, and for that matter women of all ages, do not have licenses, permits, or other forms of easily accessible government identification.

Thoughts on any of these stories? Also, what have you been reading (or writing!) this week?
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