dkwgdk (dkwgdk) wrote in vaginapagina,

Position Advice? (Cis-Female, Cis-Male Sex)

So I have a relatively new partner, and we've come to that part of the sexytimes that never quite works for me -- me being on top.  I am a cis-female, he is a cis-male.  He's on the larger end of the spectrum of male penises I've encountered, and is able to maintain an erection in missionary and me-on-all-fours positions. He's interested in sex with me on top, but when we do it, he loses some of his rigidity and it's not particularly pleasurable for me (as well as being a hell of a lot of work for my thighs and core.)

Any thoughts on how to keep him harder and how to just generally make this better for me?  I've never liked being on top...I guess I could try masturbating that way more often, but it just seems to be murder on my legs and it is so frustrating that I usually end up crying. He likes to stimulate my nipples but it's like they just go numb in this position and it's not terribly pleasurable. Maybe a cock ring?  I dunno.  Help!

Some physical info, in case it helps.
Him: Late 40s, normal weight, runs 5 or 6 days a week. No health problems he knows of.
Me: 35, overweight, cycle 5 or 6 days a week, Pilates five days a week. Mild arthritis and tendonitis in right hip. (My discomfort during sex is very symmetrical between my left and right legs, so I don't think the arthritis is what's causing the problem although it's probably not helping, either!)

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