Not sure how to put all this into words..... I'm 5'9" 227 lbs( lost near 100 over the past 4 years gained and lost ) my boyfriend hurts my feelings everytime we try to have sex. He says he can feel my fat down there and that it turns him off.... we have had sex that resulted in both climaxing only twice in 3 1/2 months. He says I need to work out to tone up and tighten the area... I dont know if losing weight will help or not... The area I'm worried about is vulva I know its big and fat (TMI) I can grab a hand full of fat .... anyway will losing weight help or just make it more flabby? Is there any exercise to help tone this part of the body?