blewoutthestars (blewoutthestars) wrote in vaginapagina,

Am I over reacting?

So, my partner teaches guitar part-time at a tiny independent music school: the sort that runs out of church halls at the weekends and in the evenings. They have a lot of kids and teenagers coming for lessons there. The other day, he came home and told me that during one session he'd gone into one of the back rooms, and found a fellow guitar tutor (20-something cis male) 'hanging out' alone with his fifteen-year-old cis female student. Apparently, this tutor had also given his student part of his sandwich.

I'm a trainee Primary teacher, and we're CONSTANTLY warned about safeguarding so I don't know if it's that, but this set off some alarms in my head. It seems odd to me that, during a time when he is supposed to be teaching, a grown man should be spending time (in what is clearly a more sociable than professional manner) with an underage girl, alone in a room away from all the other parents, teachers and students. And sharing food with her too?

Should I advise my partner to report the incident to the owner of the school? My tutors are constantly telling the other trainees and me that if we have ANY sort of interaction with a pupil which could be misconstrued then we should report it IMMEDIATELY, so I don't know if it's just this instinct that has set off alarm bells. What do you all think? If I'm over reacting then please tell me - would much rather be over reacting, really! - but I'd really like to know what you all would do, or have done, in this sort of situation.

Edit for clarity: by 'report' I mean 'make the owner aware', not necessarily anything official or finger-pointing. Thanks to those of you who suggested that distinction!
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