I am 23 years old and have never had sex or even been able to insert a tampon. I went to 3 different gynecologists (insurance issues) who all diagnosed me with a thick microperforate hymen, so about two weeks ago I had a hymenotomy under general anesthesia. Before surgery, my gyno (who has been pretty awesome) told me that she would be inserting two fingers after stitching me up to make sure that she had sufficiently expanded my hymen. I had my post surgery check up with my doctor two days ago, but had not yet started my period. I looked forward to using tampons and engaging in vaginal sex with my boyfriend. Yesterday, my period started, and i tried to insert a tampon. I am using light Tampax pearl with KY jelly on the tip. I have tried different positions (sitting, squatting, standing with a leg up, and lying down). I just can't seem to get it inside me. One of the Dr.s also diagnosed me with vaginismus from years of having a learned pain response. I assumed that this problem would stop after the surgery since I know that I am large enough. Has anyone else had this problem? What do you recommend as treatment?