That guy and I broke up in February and I haven't had sex since then. I've recently begun seeing another guy and last night we attempted to have sex, which was a disaster. It was just as painful as when I was still a virgin and I couldn't even get him in all the way. After awhile, I just told him to stop and we gave up because it hurt that bad.
I don't understand at all. I thought that after I finally lost my virginity it wouldn't be as painful anymore. I was well-lubricated and although I was a little nervous, I was relaxed enough. Is it always going to be painful like this? I do have a gyno appointment scheduled for next week to rule out any infections, although I'm pretty sure I don't have anything. I've always been afraid about putting things in my vagina (tampons, fingers) but I figured it had gone away once I lost my virginity.
I would really like to be able to enjoy sex. Thanks in advance for any help you can give.