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Links round-up: Week ending January 28, 2012

Welcome to our new weekly links round-up. This is a compilation of items from the past week that may be of interest to VPers.
As a reminder, in lieu of trigger warnings, I use keywords describing the themes of the piece. Please skim these before deciding to read the excerpt or click through for the full article. Outside sources are not safe spaces, and mainstream source's comments should almost always be avoided. The links I highlight don't necessarily reflect VP's views, or even my own, for that matter. 

This week's round-up includes: TV's relationship with women; On Being an Object and then Not Being an Object; performance art on sex, disability, and race; a trans woman on the male socialization myth,

  1. To: Television Re: Your Relationships with Women at SOURCE (Keywords: television, media, women )
    TV, what are you trying to say? Would your wife not be welcome in your fantasy nightclub? Can you not stand to listen to your wife talk for 5 seconds? Do you think your wife has more fun with her girlfriends than with you? These are very serious problems if you actually feel that way about someone you’re choosing to spend your life with. Without being too presumptuous, TV, I would like to suggest that maybe you and your wife invest in some marital counseling.

  2. On Being an Object and then Not Being an Object at Finslippy (Keywords: US, street harrassment, rape culture)
    To be a young woman in our culture means that you exist, from an alarmingly young age, for the appreciation of others. Therefore, your every feature is fair game for public appraisal.
    It means you become accustomed to a certain kind of gaze: a cold survey of your merits and deficits.
    It means you tense up when you walk past a group, any group, of men, because you know they're going to say something, it may or may not be positive, and either way it's not going to leave you feeling good about yourself.

  3. When it Comes to Sex, Are Your Sins Invalid? at Huffington Post (Keywords: US, disability, race, performance art, bodies)
    this is the context in which I live. When I'm having sex, I'm having it in a context which says that my body is not desirable, in a context which has campaigns of violence against me. When I think of my body, I do so in a cultural landscape with massive media onslaught that marginalizes my form. This the case quite honestly for most people, but particularly for people who have been multiply marginalized -- people who are disabled, queer/gender queer, dark-skinned people. We're experiencing our sexuality in a context of significant dehumanization.

  4. Talkin’ ‘Bout My S-S-S-Socialization at Natlie Reed (Keywords: trans women, socialization, gender)
    Growing up amidst male socialization when one’s gender identity is not consistent with it is a horrifying and traumatic experience. Nothing about it is in any way a privilege, and one does not internalize or adapt to it in a manner at all similar to how a cis man does. Rather than it being a means through which one develops confidence and a sense of power and entitlement, eventually taking one’s vantage point for granted, it is instead a painful, self-erasing performance one has been forced to adopt. One has a constant inner checklist of the behaviours and mannerisms you’re supposed to display in order to avoid being seen as girly and consequently ridiculed or beaten up. Instead of gaining the benefits of being the “superior” class within our cultural gender dynamics, you’re instead experiencing an extremely harsh, constraining prison of gender’s unspoken rules and regulations. Instead of internalizing a sense of being the default, favoured, normal gender, you internalize scripts, shame, self-hatred and the need to police your own gender- police your expression, your personality, your interests, the ways in which you interact with others, anything that could end up with you getting “caught” and revealing how you’re not normal, you’re inferior, broken and wrong.

What have you been reading (or writing!) this week?

If you'd like to see an article included in next week's round-up, send me an e-mail at recidivist@vaginapagina.com . Non-US and positive links are especially appreciated. (I can't fit all the awesome links people send, but I'll try to post any that I don't include to Facebook, Tumblr, or Twitter.) You can also just take matters into your own hands and post in the comments!
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