I'm a 25 y/o lesbian cis-female and I've been sexually active with my current partner for the past 2 months. My partner dislikes going down on me or letting me penetrate her (topics I know I will eventually have to discuss with her, but they're not the subject of this post), and instead we've been having sex that focuses on penetrating me.
I've never been much of a penetration gal, but with such focus upon it recently - well, I've discovered that not only can I orgasm, I can ejaculate. The orgasms are not very deep or particularly better than clitoral orgasms, and ejaculation doesn't seem to intensify them. My partner and I don't use toys, so they're dependent upon her stimulating my g-spot and cervix.
The problem is this: I don't really like ejaculating. I'd say I'm doing it about 60% of the time now.
While I have no problem with it for other women (or even my partners) I just wish that I could have sex without ejaculating. It makes me self-conscious and it's a bit of a mess. There's a LOT of fluid, enough to soak the entire area of the bed beneath my abdomen. My partner has nothing to do with my uncomfortableness, as she's very supportive of it and seems to like it. I just would rather it not happen all the time.
Do any of you have experience with controlling your ejaculation? At making vaginal orgasms more intense?