June 5th, 2012

New to everything

I hope this post isn't too disjointed and makes sense. I have no idea where to begin without making it novel-length.

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I went on Citalopram.

I've always considered myself asexual. I was just never interested in sex. I had other things to think about and I always channeled the few times I felt arousal into art work. I never wanted anyone to touch me. So it sort of blind sided me when what seemed like just flirtation quickly turned into physical stuff and I actually wanted that physical stuff to go on. I feel like I am on another planet, it is so strange to feel all this stuff- arousal for someone, wanting that someone to touch and kiss me, etc.

We've been together twice and I get so close but just can't seem to go over that edge. This doesn't really bother me, though I would love to see what it feels like with another person and not a dildo. I can tell it's bugging him and I know he wants to come as well but is spending so much energy on me that he doesn't. It's also a turn off for him that I can't come. He won't penetrate me as he doesn't like condoms; he uses his mouth and hands on me and has me grind on him.

Before antidepressants I would masturbate maybe once a month or once every two months and I have on occasion come from using dildos and I know that I like it rough down there, with lots of clit stimulation. I can usually come from just rubbing myself and not penetrating at all. Since going on antidepressants though, about 7 months ago, I have masturbated maybe twice. The drive nearly disappeared altogether, which is why I can't understand this sudden physical relationship and me wanting to keep it.

I do have an appointment with my doc on July 13th, that is the earliest she could see me so I turn to you guys for help until. I had discussed lowering my antidepressant dose in the warm and hot months, she told me just to leave her a message if I ever did so I am considering doing that now that it's getting pretty hot outdoors... maybe that can help.

I have done some reading and nothing really made sense, until I read about antidepressants effecting sex lives and then it all made sense. I would rather keep my happy/sad switch even if it trumps or hides my orgasm switch as I do not want to risk facing that dark abyss again by switching meds when I know this one works so well for me. So is there something I have missed in my googling for info? Any other thoughts or advice?

No Sex for 1 Year, Now painful!

Hey Guys!

So I ended my relationship with my ex boyfriend last June and didn't engage in any sort of sexual activity with anyone for the last year. I recently met someone else and we had sex for the first time on Saturday. It hurt like hell! I related it to the pain I felt when I had sex for the first time at 18. I'm now 23. I'm asking this question more out of curiosity, not worry, but why did that happen? The entrance to my vagina KILLED for the next 2 days and I was just all tender and uncomfortable. It was also a very weird burning feeling at my entrance. Nothing I couldn't bare, but still...weird. He did comment as he was trying to enter me and asked "What's wrong?"...I think he realized it was difficult to enter. I told him this was normal, which is true. With my ex, it was difficult for him to enter me too...I'm petite and naturally tight. But it didn't HURT like this.

He didn't ejaculate inside me, so I can't really attribute the burning feeling to that. And I was extremely excited. I feel like I go into immediate hot flash mode even just sitting close to him, so that's not really the reason for the pain.
Just curious...any ideas? Anyone else gone through this?
I'm on vacation now, so we haven't tried again or anything...and I didn't really let him know that it hurt because I wanted the sex so badly, lol.

Thanks!

Crazy PMS, looking for ideas about hormone balance

Hey all!

My period was AWESOME and I didn't have cramps for almost 4 cycles. How cool! However, this last cycle was HORRIBLE. I was in so much pain and I was nauseous and had diarrhea all day and it sucked! In the week leading up to my period, my cravings were pretty bad and I was eating quite a bit of junk food and I felt really heavy and lethargic. My appetite and cravings usually change throughout the month anyway, but this was really extreme and I felt like I was being tossed around! The extremity of PMS for my last cycle leads me to believe that perhaps my hormones are out of balance? Does this ring a bell for anyone? After I started bleeding it was easy for me to be healthy and active and my cravings went away.

What might be out of balance? I would love to hear about similar experiences or advice about how to balance my hormones.. I'm not interested in birth control or drugs, but would love suggestions about herbs or homeopathic remedies or certain foods to eat in abundance or avoid... I generally eat very healthy and I dance and do yoga.

Thank you for your help!

No period after stopping stacking and odd YI-like symptoms

I feel like every time I post here I'm in the middle of 80 questions/concerns about my vagina and feeling very overwhelmed so bear with me as I rant. Le sigh... Here we go. Would love some help/reassurance/experience. I'm a 27 year old (about to turn 28 this Saturday) cis-gendered female.

I've been stacking Gildess (generic of LoEstrin, I believe) since about October. I started getting recurrent YI or YI-like symptoms very frequently so I decided I'd take a break since that's just about the only thing that's changed to take me from never-ever having YIs to the current state of affairs. I was on another form of birth control (Yasmin, I think, for a while and some others earlier) from ages 15-22 and never got one. So I figured, yeah, give it a break and likely the period will flush it out. I stopped taking it back on May 15th. 2 major problems with this plan:

1) Despite the fact that before, if I was a few hours late in taking it, I would immediately start spotting. So I figured that after 24 hours, certainly 48 hours, my period would immediately start. Still hasn't shown up. WTF, uterus? I am having sex with my boyfriend but we think the chances of pregnancy are hiiiiiighly unlikely seeing as we stupidly had lots of frequent sex (daily and sometimes multiple times a day) for about 2 years and never got pregnent. We're pretty sure one or both of us is sterile based on this. I did start to get nervous so bought a pregnancy test this afternoon, just took it, and though the line was faint, it looks negative. Sooooo, VP-ers any ideas? This is my first time stacking so do any of you know if this is normal for a period to take this long to start? I felt like I had the beginnings of cramps within 48 hours and did have a little spotting but now nothing. I know I'm not at my full 28 days, but I just figured it'd start immediately after stopping. So I'm curious what other people's experiences are with how soon after stopping stacking it took for your period to return.

2) These silly YI-like symptoms are still there and I'm getting confused. In the past itchiness has been a BIG part of the few YIs I've had. But for the past month or so, no itchiness but my discharge is just odd. It's got a little bit of that 'cottage cheese' thing going on, but the best way I can describe it is that instead of consistent, uniform, milky um slime with various degrees of opaqueness (when it's normal) it's currently like my discharge is split between basically water and really stringy thick lines. Yesterday I was feeling around and pulled out an almost 2" square-ish piece that was almost as thick as jello but all clear. 0___o I've NEVER had discharge like this before. I've been taking probiotic pills meant for this and it helps a little and I even stuck a clove of garlic up there last night but noticed no change this morning. I picked up a single day use YI med at the store today and am tempted to try it. It's been almost a month of this type of discharge with no change and I'm wondering what the heck is going on. Just wondering if I should buck up and see a doctor or not. Anyone ever experienced something like this and/or have advice??

Le sigh....Thanks for listening to the rant, VP-ers and for any help you can provide. You are all rockstars as always and I'm so thankful for this community of supportive and comforting people.

Sex accident; anal damage?

Okay so I don't really know how I'd classify this problem because I don't even know if this is a real problem.
But last night I had sex with this guy and he was basically a lot girthier than I've experienced before and in the process, his penis kind of slipped out of my vaginal opening and into the anal opening (i have absolutely no idea exactly how this happened but it did). I have never actually done anal sex so I don't know much about the sensations, but it really hurt and today my butt really hurts and when I pooped, it was all normal, but when I wiped it was like loads of poop was just leaking. I wondered if the two are related but I was worried and didn't know the best way to ask and am I worrying about nothing?
I do suffer from IBS too btw.
my choice

Broken condom

So the condom broke while my husband and I were in the middle of sex. He had not finished yet. We stopped and put another one on. I use birth control pills, but do not take them at the same time every day. It is usually in a two hour time frame. I am supposed to start my period on Monday. I am wondering if I should take Plan B, or just not worry. He did not ejujulate(sorry for the horrible spelling), but I do not trust the pill 100%.
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