July 19th, 2011

I found my libido!

Sex was spectacular, last Saturday night. I don't want to say that a fight replenished my lack of sex drive but it was the catalyst. Getting mad and letting it out was like a reawakening of the senses. Mind you, we don't have knock down, drag out, insult slinging fights. Nothing was said in anything higher than an inside voice. I got angry, let him know I was angry and then backed off for a day, so I could find a productive way to articulate how I was feeling without putting him on the defensive. By the time I was done, I felt like my house after what a call a whole house douching (basically I go through all the closets, junk drawers, cabinets and get rid of anything that's does nothing more than collecting dust). All the insecurities, questions, minor annoyances that have been building up were causing a disconnect, between us, and it morphed into feeling like I was nothing more than a life support system for a vagina.

It's not like he's mean or inconsiderate; he's actually very much the opposite. A lot of it is my fault because of my tendency to accomodate. It's not even just him, it's the kids too. I go out of my way to make sure everyone has what they need, then it becomes what they want, too, but the more I accomodate, the more they expect me to accomodate. He comes home from work and needs time to decompress; everyone does. It started to become more of a full night experience for him. He hangs out with me, while I make dinner and then retires to the computer, after dinner, and that's where he stayed until bed time. The kids retire to their interests after dinner and I am left wandering the house looking for conversation with someone, anyone. I was starting to feel completely invisible.

It ended nicely, I didn't demand that he give up the computer, every night. I don't want the mood of the house to be centered around my whims but sometimes it's just nice to feel more important than the laundry and dinner. I don't expect this to effortlessly last forever. Routine, habits, they happen. We just have to work harder at keeping it saucy.

Anyway, there have been a lot of complaints of lost libido, when I was last here. Hopefully, someone else can get something out of this.

BC & Sex Drive

Hey All,
This past weekend I was at my boyfriend's house and I started my sugar pills on Sunday. (I take Lo-Ovral 28) Now, I have never been with him while not on active pills since we live 2 hrs apart and I only really get out to stay with him every 2 weeks or so but I had a schedule change at work this week so I went for an extra few days. Long story short, yesterday I was insatiable when it came to sex. I love having sex with him but sometimes I feel too dry or just not totally into it. So my question is, can being off the active pills for only 24hrs really cause that much of a difference in my sex drive or do you think it was just coincidental?

In possibly unrelated news, we have been together 6 Mo and the L word was dropped on Sunday so that could possibly have something to do with it too. But if it is the pill, I may have to get there on sugar pill week now!
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YI Agony

So, about a week ago I developed a minor yeast infection. I knew it was that because I recently finished an antibiotic and I had been in a wet bathing suit a lot.

I have never had problems with it until now, so I picked up a Monistat 3 pack and used it for 3 days. The YI appeared to be gone. I had sex with my fiance.

Enter YI stage left. It was back and raging so I got another Monistat 3 pack. Took it for 2 nights, felt better. On Sunday I was in a Mud Run [5k through mud] and wore compression shorts and running shorts. Nothing got in my vagina, but it was very moist. Before the race, I felt great... after the race, AWFUL. Thankfully, I still had day 3 of the second pack. I took it and took a nap. When I woke up I was in agony so my fiance went out and got me ANOTHER monistat 3. In retrospect, I know how stupid this was... but I was desperate. Cool baths weren't doing it, neither was an ice pack.

I used the first night of the third pack and went to bed. Mind you, that was only about 5 hour difference between uses. I used one after the race and one for bed that night. I woke up yesterday morning in extreme pain. My doctor couldn't get me in but I had a diflucan prescription filled. It currently feels like I have little paper cuts all over the inside of my vagina, entrance to it, and labia. I cannot pee without being in the shower because it's extreme pain. I also still have a slight yeast itch. The burning pain is much much much worse than the YI now though! What did I do to myself? Is this an allergic reaction? A chemical burn?

My doctor's office kind of sucks and I am waiting for a call back to see if an on call doctor can see me because they're booked... I also made an appointment at a NEW place for tomorrow because I am so desperate. I am not sure if I can make it until tomorrow. I only feel ok in the tub, shower, or holding ice on it. I keep crying from pain. I don't know what to do. Has anyone had this happen before???

Ovarian Cysts - Treatment?

Hi All,

First time poster, long time lurker and learner :)

I went to see a gynecologist who specializes in PMS management today.  After answering a ton of questions about my cycle, my fibroids, and medical history, he sent me over to have an ultrasound of my uterus.  The technician measured my fibroids, one was calcified and the other is 3.5 mm.  The technician also scanned my ovaries and one was a normal size, and the other had a 5 cm cyst on it.  The doctor prescribed Ocella and stated that this should reduce te size of the cyst but he wants me to come back in 8 weeks to determine if this treatment is working.  I've had a cyst on one of my ovaries in the past and my gyn. at the time just drained it before performing  D&C.  Can you share your experiences with Ocella as a treatment for cysts?

Thank you in advance!

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First of all, I wanted to say thank you for the support you've given me a few months ago regarding an abnormal pap. I decided to wait three months (which actually ended up being about four and a half months) to retest instead of automatically going for the colposcopy like my dr suggested. Turns out, the repeat pap came back absolutely normal. I'm very relieved!

But now I'm needing some wisdom. My cycles have always, always, always been 28 days. I was so regular prior to having my son that it even came during the same time of day. Every now and then it'll go as long as 31, but it is NEVER shorter than 28. Until now. Last cycle I started bleeding around 21 days. The bleeding only lasted 3 days and never really got heavy. So, I stressed and thought "implantation bleeding". I tested, negative. I waited a few days, tested, negative. Well, here it is cycle day 21 and I'm bleeding again.

Is this something I need to call my Dr. about? (considering I JUST had the repeat pap a week ago. She didn't do a pregnancy test) Why could a period possibly be so early? Could this be a hormone problem? I'm 24, 3 pregnancies, 1 living child. I charted to conceive my son so I'm pretty aware of my cycles. This just baffles me.
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Ok, so I'm posting as fast as I can incase there's something urgent that needs doing. Basically, I was about to screw the lid on a bottle of nail polish remover and it spilled on me, and went into my crotch area and suddenly hell fires broke loose on my labia.

It's acetone free, and I ran for a towel soaked in cold water and it didn't leave my area for like 5 minutes. Now I put on a pad because knickers rubbed too much and put some water on it to cool me but it's still VERY sore, pain like I've never felt and getting up and sitting down makes me pull this face o.0

It's been about 20 mins since it happened. Is there anything I can do to soothe it, or prevent some damage :/

I'm rather freaked out.

Thanks VP-ers

PS- any reccs for how I should go to the toilet now, I'm rather scared to try, cos it's from my clit area to about half way down my labia that I can feel burning.
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Trouble orgasming with boyfriend :( Help!

We've been together for a while and have been sleeping together for a few months and i feel really comfortable with him.
Ordinarily we're kissing etc etc and he touches my clitoris and within normal time I orgasm... but lately (last couple of weeks or so) it just hasn't been doing anything for me when he touches me..
it's only happened a few times and he asks what's wrong and i dont know what to say, it's a little embarrassing.
One time i had gotten myself off recently so was a bit sensitive and it wasn't going to happen anyway.. but i'm not sure why the other times..
Since I have no problem alone, maybe I just need to tell him how I like it better next time? Or maybe we just need to go a bit slower.
Any ideas?

sea buckthorn oil

has anyone tried this vaginally for infections?
my partner stumbled across this because he likes to put oil on his penis (go figure) and was looking for one that wouldn't irritate my vagina. i'm prone to irritation and have pretty chronic bv.
allegedly, sea buckthorn oil can help stave off infections.
wanted to ask here before we run out and buy a case :)