7:50 am - 07/11/2010

Irritation from sexy times

So my boyfriend and I have been getting more and more sexual, which I'm really happy with! He's the first guy to ever go down on me, and he actually suggests it and seems to enjoy doing it. Buuuuut...

He recently moved out of his mother's house (really bad situation) so he's been staying with me, and we've been going at it every few days (and it would probably be more often if not for a mix of me being tired from work, my roommate being around all the damn time, and him being stressed about legal BS from the move-out). I would LOVE to have MORE sexy times, but it seems that even the amount we're doing it a bit much for me, physically, and I think him going down on me is the culprit?

The first couple times were fine, but the next time I noticed I was pretty dry and irritated a while later. I do get dry some times, so I didn't think much of it, and we went about our business the next day, but the feeling persisted. We didn't do much for another couple days, and I was still feeling dry, and actually feeling a little itchy right around the entrance of my vagina, which has never happened to me before. Once during this few day break I had a lot of white discharge, and I thought maybe it was a yeast infection, but it wasn't "cottage cheese" like, didn't smell like anything but typical me, and didn't come back after I wiped it away.

It seemed to clear up on its own, until I tried masturbating the other day, and then I was dry all over again. Then it seemed to improve after a day or so. We do drink a lot of juice, so I asked him to drink some water before we did anything yesterday, just in case the extra sugars in his mouth were part of the problem. But after a while of oral, I'm back to the beginning; itchy and dry. I actually had to make him stop giving me oral because I could feel myself drying out during. :\

I really really like oral (even if it doesn't seem to solve my lack of partner-orgasms, but that's another story), and would hate to have to stop getting it because of this dryness. But oh man, I cannot STAND being itchy and dry! Could it be an infection (in which case I'm pretty screwed, as I have no insurance and very little money)? Just plain ol' dryness?
Hi Superstars! Last night I was bedding down and realized that my ladybits were a bit itchy around the bottom entrance to my vagina, so I scratched at it for a while and it went away. This morning I woke up and the itchiness had moved up to my clit and the top of my vulva, so I decided to take a look at things in my handy-dandy mirror. Everything looked fine, albeit a bit pink from where I'd been scratching at it, and then I decided to rub around and see if anything was coming off of my vulva. There was: dry skin! So I took a shower and the itching stopped (I didn't think it was anything really serious because there was no burning accompanying the itch). I also think the cause was that I was wearing some pretty restrictive panties yesterday and was walking around a bit, and things may have just got dry and irritated.

Does anyone else have an itch problem because of dry skin in the summer? What do you do to help it? My first thought was some sort of oatmeal bath to help rehydrate the area, but I'm not sure how well that would behave with the vulva region. Any tips?
11:55 am - 07/11/2010

HIV/AIDS Resources?

Hi Superstars!

I am applying for a job as an outreach worker at my local support centre for people living with HIV and AIDS. I know I could actually do the support and outreach stuff (fact is my current boss saw the ad and told me to apply because she knew it was a career progression that won't happen in my current job and she is always saying I'm far too qualified for my current job), and I have a Masters in Health Psychology so I have the booklearnings on health promotion/behaviours/patient-professional communication etc.

BUT...

The ad says that 'knowledge of the issues faced by people with HIV/AIDS would be advantageous' which got me thinking - how much do I really know?

- I know the mechanisms involved in the transmission of HIV and the disease process.
- I know that HIV and AIDS are not the same thing, nor is AIDS an inevitability for someone with HIV.
- I know that it can be transmitted in a variety of ways and that there is no stereotypical HIV/AIDS sufferer.

But I am not sure about other issues. Stigma, yes, not just because of the disease, but also because of lifestyle? Problems getting work (or being able to)? Housing? Living off benefits is hard, especially in this particular area of the UK, which is expensive and most people are high SES (hell, I know this one, I struggle enough as a single mother with a chronic illness/disability working part time!). I really don't know.

Most resources I've seen online are about social stigma and educating people that HIV isn't rampantly contagious or a death sentence. But I'd really like a bit more insight into the daily problems faced by people with HIV/AIDS if anyone can give any advice or pointers to better resources. Having this job would help me progress my career and would also make the world of difference to my son and I, so I'd really like to make sure I have a reasonable starting and not subscribe to any misconceptions.

Many thanks in advance!
1:01 pm - 07/11/2010

thanks to everyone...

thanks to everyone who helped last night it was such a relief to know it wasnt a 911 situtation.
Next available apt is early this week so getting her in there asap...


as an aside as an 18 year old woman i had NO idea your lady bits could literally fall out! Totally freaked me out they really should tell women this. Just a few questions then..

Seemig as im 18 and hope that never happens to me i was wondering...

does it only hapen to women who give birth?
Is it hereditary or is it just due to the extent of damamge after childbirth (my mother is 50 btw)
and is there anything i can start doing from a young age to stop this occuring in my 50's?

my mother has a long history of vaginal difficulity after giving bith some 22 years ago but prevention is the best cure right?


thanks again to everyone so happy i found this community!
1:51 pm - 07/11/2010

Boob question

So, VPers, this is my first time posting, and it's more about breast health than the vagina, but hope you lovely people will be able to answer my question.

Backstory: i quit smoking last year, and in the process, managed to pack on about 40 pounds. i went from 130 lbs and size 8-10 to 170 lbs and size 14-16 in less than six months. As that happened, by breasts grew along with the rest of me, from 34 B to 40 C.

In December i went on a diet & started working out like crazy. i have lost 25 lbs and am sort of in limbo between size 12 and 10. I feel like i'm at a healthy weight now, could probably stand to lose another five pounds but am not too worried about it.

Of course, when i lost the weight, my breasts decreased. I'm a 38 B now. I have noticed that the bottom halves of my breasts, under the nipples, feel a little...loose may be the word. The skin feels kind of ripply? Is this simply because they've deflated a bit with the weight loss? Has anyone else had this happen? i don't have loose skin anywhere else on my body (or stretch marks, hooray!) and i've never dieted before, so i'm not familiar with what the body goes through when it shrinks.

Thanks, ladies!
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