It's not like he's mean or inconsiderate; he's actually very much the opposite. A lot of it is my fault because of my tendency to accomodate. It's not even just him, it's the kids too. I go out of my way to make sure everyone has what they need, then it becomes what they want, too, but the more I accomodate, the more they expect me to accomodate. He comes home from work and needs time to decompress; everyone does. It started to become more of a full night experience for him. He hangs out with me, while I make dinner and then retires to the computer, after dinner, and that's where he stayed until bed time. The kids retire to their interests after dinner and I am left wandering the house looking for conversation with someone, anyone. I was starting to feel completely invisible.
It ended nicely, I didn't demand that he give up the computer, every night. I don't want the mood of the house to be centered around my whims but sometimes it's just nice to feel more important than the laundry and dinner. I don't expect this to effortlessly last forever. Routine, habits, they happen. We just have to work harder at keeping it saucy.
Anyway, there have been a lot of complaints of lost libido, when I was last here. Hopefully, someone else can get something out of this.