I'm surprised because I really felt hat I had vaginismus, not vestibulodynia. (I guess that's why you shouldn't self-diagnose with the internet!) Vestibulodynia is basically (according to the doctor) a chronic pain syndrome: the nerves on the vestibule (where the vagina meets the vulva) react to touch by feeling pain. Yet I don't feel pain with fingers or with a menstrual cup, which I feel contradicts the diagnosis.
I did ask the doctor about vaginismus and she said that was her inital thought as well, but I seemed able to relax my pelvic floor muscles properly and there was no sign of muscle tone (or something).
I'm also concerned that the pain I felt when she tested me was caused by the weird itching problem I've had lately (I thought it was a yeast infection, but the tests came back negative) instead of being related to the painful intercourse problem. The itching is a lot more recent than the pain with intercourse.
I'm also somewhat uncomfortable with the treatment she suggested: putting xylocaine/lidocaine cream on the area twice a day (I think) for 3 months. Xylocaine is numbing cream, the kind dentists use. I don't understand why I should be taking it on the long term if all it does is temporarly numb the nerves. There must be some sort of long term effect? I don't want to permanantly numb my nerves. I asked and she said there were no side effects I should be looking out for.
I know I should just trust her diagnosis and try the cream, but I feel weird about it. Does anyone have experience with vestibulodynia? With xylocaine cream?