First things first... I had sex for the first time on January 8th. I am not using any kind of birth control, but we did use a condom of course. He came inside me, but while he was taking it off there were no obvious holes or leaks or anything, and the condom was in use at all times during insertion. Two weeks later I was due for my period on the 17th. I started having PMS symptoms (occasional headache, bloating, moodiness etc), but after no bleeding started for a week and a half while I still had the symptoms, I started to become concerned. (By the way, my periods have never really been regular, but they had been coming fairly dependably since October) During this time my breasts became slightly tender, a little swollen and had shooting pains occasionally, which has never happened before.
I found some information on inducing periods and decided to try that. On the 26th I started a regimen of parsley tea/vitamin C/dong quai, adding black cohosh on the 30th, and continued till the morning of the 31st. Other than a fever the first night, lots of cramping throughout, and feeling a little sick after adding the black cohosh, still nothing happened. I voiced my concerns to my boyfriend, and on the 31st he suggested that he take me to get a pregnancy test. The test came back negative, but I couldn't help a nagging fear that the herbs had somehow caused a false negative since I had still taken them that morning, and apparently they are all diuretics, which may not bode well for an accurate pee test result. The following week, I still continued to have slight cramping and swelling/tenderness in my breasts.
Fast forward to this Monday, February 7th...The cramps gradually became more uncomfortable during the morning, and around noon I started bleeding finally! (it's still ongoing but really winding down) I read about decidual bleeding, but from what little information I could find on it, it doesn't seem likely; it really seems as though I'm having my actual period, and it's even been slightly heavier than usual. (also same color/consistency of blood, lasting the same amount of time as usual, etc.) I can tell it's nearly over, and although my breasts are STILL tender and I'm still having very light cramps, my other symptoms that come with menstruation are all pretty much gone.
Something strange did happen yesterday, though... a lot of blood came out at once, and I passed an unusually large clot, about the size of a grape in diameter, and slightly brighter red than my usual clots. Could that be a possible miscarriage, or would it be too small for a fetus that's a little less than 5 weeks now? Could this "period" just be really deceptive decidual bleeding, and I'm actually pregnant? (I've heard horror stories...) Should I just chalk all of this up to a wonky period/hormones combined with insane worrying? (more than likely it's the latter, haha) Thanks for any responses, and my apologies for the length of this post, haha.