My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and used to average sex 3 times a week, but as my medical issues arose, it turned into about once a week/every other week. In the last month, we've had sex once. The last three/four times we've attempted, he is fine until the actual second we're about to do it, and he loses his boner. So, needless to say, this hasn't been easy. He doesn't know why it happens, and he's fine throughout everything else, but just like...gets scared? I dont know. This has happened very very rarely in the last 2 years, and is usually when he's extremely exhausted or something is seriously wrong.
So after talking about this, I asked if he still masturbates as much as he used to, which he does. So I thought maybe cutting down on that would help us. But then I found out he masturbated to another woman (celebrity) for the first time in two years the other day, right around the start of these issues.
I still feel very awful about posting this because I don't want to embarrass him but I want to save this and he feels so guilty and I don't know what to do :(
EDIT: he also has an issue with finishing infront of me. he has when we do things other than sex and he masturbates while watching me or things like that, but he cant cum when we're having sex or i'm pleasuring him. not sure if its related, just thought id mention it.