I would secondly like to say that I don't care if someone has slept with 900 different partners, it is their body, their choice END OF STORY...
Last night I went to a gyno at the free clinic near where I live because my regular gyno could not take me for the next few months. When I called I was under the impression that there would be no problem. When I got there, the doctor looked annoyed that I went there instead of going to my regular doctor. She used a very condescending tone with me throughout the whole process and flat out refused to speak to me in English. Now I understand french, but I'm much more comfortable in English and when she asked me a question and I didn't understand because of the language barrier she would roll her eyes.
Most important parts: She asked me my number of sexual partners, I told her. I also told her that I have been in a monogamous relationship for the past 3 years. When it came time to do my pap, it was very painful, worse than ever. I could HEAR the scraping of my cervix. She walked away, came back and scraped again. When I sat up she said "your std test will be back in 2 weeks and your pap in a month" I DID NOT ask her to give me an STD test and she did not tell me that she was swabbing me for one! I felt really uncomfortable and I feel really icky now, I keep like reliving this and it's making me really upset. I've been tested before, so it's not that, it's that she felt the need to do this without telling me based on what I told her about my sexual history. She never even asked me if I'd been tested!
I also told her about the cyst I've had on my perineum for MONTHS now and she said "well it looks like you just pinched something, I'm sure it's fine" I said "really, it's been there for at least 4 months, it hasn't gotten bigger but it is very irritating" and she didn't say anything.
I just feel really gross right now like I have all these problems and no doctor to turn to.