For the VP Team
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I'm eighteen years old, a bit of a late bloomer - didn't get my first period until fourteen, didn't get horny until sixteen, and only recently got a hold of my first vibe (a bullet) and probably won't be able to get a hold of a new, better one for some time. (Don't have ID, not walking into a shop, can't order 'cause my parents'd ask - typical stuff. I smuggled my first one inside only for it to break, got it sent back with the help of a friend, second one is also broken in that it doesn't switch modes or turn off - but hey, it turns on, and that's all I'm asking for!) I got it 'cause I can't feel ANYTHING if I use my fingers no matter how much I try.
I have a few TMI questions:
- The first time I used it it was easy to get off. The second time I noticed one side of my clit didn't react as well as the other - which was really sensitive. But what do you know, that sensitive side stopped being sensitive next time, so I used the side closest to me, which was sensitive... and stopped being sensitive after that round. Ditto the opposite side. Last time I had real trouble feeling anything but a mild pleasurable sensation for fifteen minutes until I found the last sensitive spot right at the base. Which pretty much guarantees I won't feel anything next time. Shit. I've heard of women needing stronger vibes occasionally because the vibrations numb the area a bit or something, but is it supposed to happen *so fast*? (I got my vibe a week ago today.) Will the sensitivity come back if I stop for a while, and if so, how long? If not, WTF do I do? D: Any techniques with a bullet anyone recommends?
- I've heard masturbation can help sleep and makes you feel pretty damned relax after orgasm, except I've never felt that. Mildly I might have the shakes a bit, but I don't feel any more relaxed. It's just, "Welp, I guess that's over." Is that normal? Will it get better? (The first few times my orgasms were a bit disappointing then got better, so I'm hoping this is the same?)
- Is wiping a vibe off in tissues sufficient or should I stick it under the tap to wash it? Are wet wipes OK?
- In the past, to semi-masturbate (I never got off from it) I used to just lay there and fantasize. Once in a blue moon I'd get close to orgasm but never actually did. Touching myself, no matter how aroused, still didn't do anything even with the fantasizing. But it felt intense - it felt way better to using the vibe and yet, very *different*. It felt like a different kind of arousal, where using the vibe or physical masturbation is mildly pleasant and this is way better. I find it difficult to use the vibe and fantasize at the same time (next time, if I get the sensitivity thing sorted out, I'm going to try fantasizing and *then* using the vibe). This isn't so much a question as much as a bit of a "WTF?" and hoping people have anything to say about it.
Thank you, so much, for your time. :)