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First off, I'd like to say that I love this community for being so informative as well as non-judgmental. Even so, as it relates to my problem, I'm making this post anonymous because I am very insecure about this issue. I'm looking forward to any advice :)
Ok... where to start. I'm 21 years old and ended a 5-year relationship 4 months ago. He is the only guy I've slept with but I'm ready to move on - not necessarily date but I want to have some fun. There have been a few guys I have been interested in on a sexual level but I wasn't able to bring myself to sleep with them. It's like even though I want to, I feel like I'd be doing something wrong. Once when I came home from a party pretty late around 5am, my mom sat me down the next day and said that if I keep going out all the time that men are going to start thinking of me as "something with a lot of mileage on it". I was brought up in a strict Catholic household but for some time now I have rejected all of it and have no regrets in feeling that way so I'm not sure if this is what's holding me back. I just want to experience some kind of sexual freedom... and the reason I've made this post anonymous is because I kind of feel like a whore for feeling this way. I'm worried what people will think mainly.
I guess what I'm asking is... especially for people who enjoy sex with people who aren't your significant others whether it be randoms or friends with benefits, how do you feel comfortable with yourselves going through with it? I saw a post a while ago where people were saying how many PIV partners they had and I have so much respect for you and I truly admire you! I wish I could be like that... I mean I'm not looking to have sex with everyone in the world but when the time feels right, I don't want to turn it down because I have a ridiculous notion of my "self-worth" being downgraded.
Thanks so much, VPers!