So the situation in short: my SO and I just had an exceptionally long talk about his attitude towards going down on me, and a lot of his issue is the way my vulva smells. I eat healthy and I shower pretty regularly, so there's really nothing more I can do for the smell or taste. He wants me to rinse off in the shower before he goes down on me, which I'm (grudgingly) willing to do, but he also wants me to use Johnson & Johnson soap because it's apparently pretty gentle and might help him be more enthusiastic about going down on me because he says that just rinsing doesn't clean my vulva enough. Has anyone used J&J on their vulvas, and if so, does it mess up the pH/lead to YIs with you? Am I being unreasonable at not wanting to use the soap, and saying that he can deal with me just rinsing it? What do you think?