Easy, Lucky, Free (memoirsofsunny) wrote in vaginapagina,
Easy, Lucky, Free

Not sure how to go about this.

How do you feel about a refusal to perform cunninglus? I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. I've given him everything he's ever wanted sexually. Blowjobs, anal, ... anything. He has given oral to his past girlfriends (he's told me this before), but refuses to give it to me. He's done it one time about a year and a half ago, and it lasted maybe ten seconds, and then he stopped. I've never expressed any desire for it whatsoever until lately, whereupon he says he won't do it. 

His only reason he says is because of an incident that occurred between me and a guy a little while before my boyfriend and I started dating. My boyfriend and I were talking at this point and liked each other alot. I got drunk, and this guy I met gave me oral. He is still hurt about it, and says he does not want to do it for that reason. I completely understand why he would not want to do it, but he only found out about this incident four months ago. It's not like he gave me oral before he found out, so nothing changed. 

I honestly believe that it is just because he doesn't like the act itself. Cunninglus doesn't seem to be a very pleasant ordeal, but he did it with all his other girlfriends frequently. It just makes me feel bad, because he has said things to me before about how I stink, and about how it would be gross to go down on me. I go down on him at least three times per week, and other times we are doing whatever pleases him. He says he's interested in my orgasm [I have never had one with him] but he won't do something that I think will bring me to orgasm. I'm not going to refuse him oral until he gives me oral... I just don't think that will solve anything. Plus, I love him and I do want to please him. 

I'm just not sure how to go about this. I really am tired of him being a selfish lover and only attending to his sexual needs. I don't want to demand oral, especially if he thinks it would be gross. I don't want to make him do anything he doesn't want to do. It's not fair.

Should I just shut up about the oral thing and let him decide to do it on his own, or should I speak to him about it again? Ahh, I just don't want to make a big deal out of something that in reality isn't that big of a deal.

-Also, any tips on how to keep yourself...tasting okay down there? I know a vag is a vag, but I don't want it tasting like what I ate for lunch.

[Edit: Thank you wonderful girls for giving me such amazing advice. Now I realize that his reactions were inappropriate and immature. I'm going to talk to him again about why he won't do it. I'm going to mention the fact that I please him anyway possible, but he never does anything for me, and how that makes me feel. Basically like he doesn't give a shit about me. Hopefully he will come to his senses and realize he needs to attend to me sexually rather than just conking out after I attend to him. Thank you again for all your wonderful comments- I think I will make an update post tonight, if that is alright. <3]
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