I've been really frustrated lately. I have a new boyfriend. We've been going out for a little while, and he's a really great guy. A few weeks ago, things got a little hot and heavy, and we were going to have sex, but...how do I put this...he couldn't get it in. I was way too tense and tight. I should mention that I'm a virgin. I know I'm supposed to be tight my first time, but it really was not working at all. We tried again a couple times in the days following, but still, no luck. I've tried so hard to relax, and I feel calm when we're in bed, but for some reason, I just can't have sex with him. We tried it with fingers a few times, and even that was difficult.
I feel bad because he's had a few partners before me, and I know it's not anything he's doing. I really want to share this experience with him, but I can tell he's getting frustrated...he won't say how annoyed he is, but I can see it on his face. I don't know what I'm doing wrong.