Sarah Marie (mangofandango) wrote in vaginapagina,
Sarah Marie


I read this blog post yesterday and though it might be interesting to many of you.

The post is here. I'll explain it briefly for the linkphobic: it's a post written by a mom about female sexual power (an health, and confidence), and how men have a word for it (virility) but women do not. She discusses the power of women and their bodies in the context of pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding, as well as in the context of sex, orgasm, etc. Importantly, she writes about how female sexual power can be challenged for women - not because that
happen, but because many women feel their "venusimo" is reduced or called into question by perceived failures of womanhood. For example, having to have a C-section when the woman in question wanted to birth naturally, or having a miscarriage, etc. (You know the Tori Amos song, "Bliss", that she wrote soon after miscarrying? It includes the line "doubting if there's a woman in there somewhere" after referring to her loss. That crossed my mind while reading.)

We see this sort of thing come up a lot in this community in ways she doesn't address, too - people question themselves or feel "broken" because they cannot orgasm, have vaginal recurrent infections, experience pain during sex, and a host of other things.

So, let's talk about this post. Do you identify with it? Do you wish there was a "virility" equivalent for women (language-wise)? Do you like the word the author coined? Is there actually some better, actual word, you linguists out there? ;)

What about the idea of "venusimo"? When has yours been very strong, and what has helped to build it? If you want to talk about a time it was very weak and what tore it down, go for that, too. What about support for loss of this feeling/state of being, for men or for women? What about people who are not cisgendered?

Anyway. Have at it! I'll be discussing more, hopefully, in the comments.
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