Don't struggle with gynos who don't know what vestibulitis or vulvodynia are! I did, and it's just a waste of your time and money. If any other VPers know of good vestibulitis and vulvodynia doctors in their local area, please post them as a reply to this post so we can build a network of information on the subject.
Also, I've begun a blog to detail my progress in recovering from vestibulitis. If you'd like to follow it, the address is: http://healthyjoules.wordpress.com/