I just recently mastered the art of reaching orgasm while having sex. As some of you can imagine, I'm freakin' thrilled. It took me ten years to figure it out, so it's about time! However, I pretty much have to go through the same motions, stay in the same position, and repeat the routine step-by-step in order to get there. It works every time, but it takes so much of the fun and spontaneity out of sex. There's no variety and it's getting repetitive. I've tried switching it up or sacrificing my orgasm to do something different, but I'm left feeling unsatisfied. I never minded sex without an orgasm before and I do now that I know it's possible if I want it.
I'm gradually training myself so that the same strategy works in different positions, but it's really making sex feel more like work rather than play. It's frustrating.
Can anyone else relate?