My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three and a half years. We both live in the same home town (we met in high school) but are in a long distance relationship while at college. The good thing is we are together on vacations/over the summer.
We have noticed that, when we're home, I do not have the highest of sex drives. This is unfortunate because summer vacations are the longest consecutive time we get to spend together. I am a very sexual person, I feel, so when he first brought it up to me ("Hey... is there a reason we haven't had sex in like a week?") I was really surprised and embarrassed. "Oh God, why haven't we had sex in a week??" thought I. We have great, fantastic sex multiple times a day whenever we visit each other at school, and on vacations and such. I'm still very attracted to him and love him deeply. For some reason, though, when we're in my bed at home, all I want to do is snuggle or sleep. The thought of sex is...fine... but not on my priorities list at all. Usually, I feel more up to it at his house, but it's not usually an option as his mother is a bit of a night owl.
Could this have something to do with the fact that I am somehow deeply psychologically tied to the fact that this is the room/bed I grew up in? Thinking back to it, all other sexual encounters that I had before him were not in my room/house. They were in cars, his house, etc. Obviously, we do have sex in my room all the time because we kind of have to, but my desire for it is significantly less than when we are elsewhere. Again, I crave sex all the time when we're in either of our dorm rooms. Might it be that my room is kind of a symbol of innocence for my brain? Perhaps we need to get a little more creative when we're home!
Any thoughts, ideas or similar experiences?