I have been having sex for 3 years with one partner (I am also his first). I am on the pill but I don't think it is a case of lack of libido or lubrication; we have always had extensive foreplay and have tried a variety of (non-glycerin) lubes. I have had yeasties in the past but both my boyfriend and I have used yoghurt and canesten to treat them so I don't think its a current problem.
I have been considering buying a dildo/internal vibrator as I think this way I could 'practise' and acclimatise my body to being penetrated. (I think a toy might allow for short but frequent attempts that as I am in a long distance relationship sex cannot) I have also wondered whether it is possible that there could be 'remnants' of my hymen that are stretched but not broken? (I know this sounds implausible but I am really searching here)
Does anybody have any recommendations for suitable toys? (I live in the UK but would consider ordering online although I don't want anything too expensive)
Also, any other ideas on possible causes / solutions to painful sex.