I've been lurking this community for an extremely long time,and I would like to say that you all are fabulous! So, I have a lot of questions.
My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship now due to us attending different colleges. We spent Columbus Day weekend together in New York City, and we had sex for the first time. (We were both virgins. I'm 18, and he's 19.) Surprisingly, it didn't hurt at all, and it was pretty enjoyable. I have a very open relationship with my mother, but I'm not the most comfortable talking to her about the sexual aspects of my life. I've been wanting to tell her that I'm no longer a virgin, but I'm not exactly sure how to go about saying it. My boyfriend, on the other hand, who had no intention on telling his parents, did tell them, though mainly because his mother assumed we had had sex and asked him if we were using protection. His parents are pretty religious and are for abstaining until marriage, but they handled it pretty well. My mother on the other hand has always been very open to me about sex, but I know she still assumes I'm a virgin. So does anyone have any advice how to go about telling her? I'm pretty sure my mother still thinks I haven't even seen a penis, though my boyfriend and I had been doing almost everything but PIV sex for quite a while. :/
Also, today while I was having a bit of sexy time~* with my boyfriend via web cam, I noticed I had A LOT of what I believe to be was smegma between the folds of my vulva, but there was also some black smegma? It really freaked me out but I was able to wipe it all away with some Cottonelle wipes. It didn't have any particular funky smell, and I haven't been itching or anything..so does any one have any idea what it was? Should I be worried? My period just ended a couple of days ago, if that's of any use. Thanks in advance! Expect me to be posting quite often from now on. >.>