estrellafugaz85 (estrellafugaz85) wrote in vaginapagina,

Herpes questions

I've been worrying a lot about herpes since I got what I think was a random coldsore a few months ago. The timing couldn't have been worse - I went to see my long distance boyfriend and it popped up the day after I arrived (which I think probably means he didn't give it to me as they usually take a couple days to pop up,  - he's never had visible coldsores). The trip was sort of marred by this, as I was paranoid about us giving each other oral. I did give him head once it looked like the sore was gone and a few days later he got what looked like a spot on his penis. He squeezed it several times and white pus came out, so I doubt this was herpes right? The timing just seemed so, so odd, but it did seem like just a spot. 

So now, for the future, what happens? I've read so much about herpes and asymptomatic shedding, that now I really don't feel like ever doing oral again. I don't see how I can enjoy it worrying about getting herpes. I asked my doctor about it and she said to just avoid oral when sores are present, and that 90% of people have HSV-1 and they don't all abstain from oral. Logically this makes sense, but depending on what I read there either seems to be a sizeable chance of shedding, or actual protection from genital herpes when one has oral herpes (so theoretically it's *better* to have coldsores than not when it comes to the chances of getting genital herpes?) I'm so confused. I know it isn't the biggest deal, but there's a good chance I won't be with this guy forever, so I want to avoid picking up STD's if possible. 
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