11:40 am - 12/13/2008

oral sex after wisdom teeth removal


I got all 4 of my wisdom teeth out yesterday, and I was just wondering how long after removal is it normal/painless to give oral sex (to men)?  I don't want to make my stitches rip (they're supposed to dissolve on their own) and I don't want to get a dry socket by sucking... please help!  My boyfriend is coming home soon and since we aren't having vaginal sex yet oral is about the only thing I can do to please him.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you!
atalanta0jess 13th-Dec-2008 04:42 pm (UTC)
Ask your doctor how long you should wait before drinking from a straw. And then wait that long before you give oral You really really really should not be sucking on things until everything is healed up, and I'm not sure how long that will take.

You could always stick to licking/kissing/handjobs.
lauries414 13th-Dec-2008 04:53 pm (UTC)
hmmm I would love to give him a good handjob, but I always feel like guys can just do it better themselves! Any tips for that while we're at it?
betterbebalboa 13th-Dec-2008 05:00 pm (UTC)
Ask him what he likes--better yet, get him to show you! And then you can imitate that. Remember a lot of what makes it hot is that YOU'RE doing it, that you're the one giving him pleasure. Also, invest in some good lube to make things nice and slippery.

Other options that you didn't mention include striptease, watching porn together, frottage/dry humping, erotic massage, etc.
campfire_light 13th-Dec-2008 05:00 pm (UTC)
I'd suggest that you just stick to licking if you're going to use your mouth on him. You can use licking to help you lubricate, allowing your hands to move easier on his penis.

Generally, when I'm giving a handjob, I use one hand to play with his balls, like, fondling? I can't really explain that, but I'm sure you can figure it out. The other hand, just switch it up. Rubbing the whole length, slowly, quickly, just keep switching it up. Don't like, completely stop to change what you're doing, but changing pace sometimes is nice. Concentrate on the head once in a while. If you need more lubrication, like I said, lick around a little bit.

Those are the best bits of advice I can give. Besides, if you can't seem to do it in a way that pleases him, then ask him for feedback. He should understand that you're not capable of doing the usual right now and you're not used to giving handjobs, so ask him what he likes. His feedback will help you a lot more than any advice we can give you.
atalanta0jess 13th-Dec-2008 05:18 pm (UTC)
Use lube! Other than that, I don't really know. Remember that you don't just have to sit there and rub at it...you can make out with him while you do it, grab his balls, etc. Make it a more interesting sensory experience than just him doing it himself.
gunshotbeauty 13th-Dec-2008 04:52 pm (UTC)
i think you are supposed to avoid kissing for 4-6 weeks so the stitches disolve and your gums heal a bit so i'd assume the same for oral.
celticdaisy 13th-Dec-2008 06:45 pm (UTC)
I just had mine done last Thursday and I was told I shouldn't try kissing for about 7 days. I found 5 was fine. The stitches dissolve in 7-10 days, and I'm already back to doing limited oral. My gums are pretty much healed already and my teeth were impacted. I got back to totally normal solid food 8 days after (yesterday).
bafleyanne 13th-Dec-2008 04:52 pm (UTC)
Personally I'd be worried about getting an infection from having someone else's bodily fluids in my mouth after I had surgery. I would wait a while.
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loonylupinlover 13th-Dec-2008 08:53 pm (UTC)
If her boyfriend has tested negative for STDs, I'd be more worried about salty semen in an open wound! Ow!
bafleyanne 14th-Dec-2008 02:01 am (UTC)
Well yeah. I wasn't just talking about STDs though. Even other bacteria that could be on his skin or whatever. That is one reason they tell you to avoid kissing, after all. ;)
eavanmoore 17th-Aug-2011 10:39 pm (UTC)
Actually, the salt isn't a problem. Dentists often advise to rinse the wounds with salt water several times a day, and in my experience that doesn't hurt at all. :-)
__biggerpicture 13th-Dec-2008 04:57 pm (UTC)
I waited a month, and to be honest, it still was slightly painful. after your wisdom teeth come out and heal, the rest of your teeth will hurt like a bitch. just wait it out.
mr_green_jeans 13th-Dec-2008 05:11 pm (UTC)
Depending on when your boyfriend gets home after your wisdom teeth are removed may make that a moot point. After I had MY wisdom teeth removed, I wasn't in a "romantic" mood for about two weeks!
songforpolly 13th-Dec-2008 05:40 pm (UTC)
give it a few weeks at least.
sparks37 13th-Dec-2008 06:11 pm (UTC)
Just to echo everyone else, do NOT risk dry socket just to give a blow job. This is one of those things I would tend to be over cautious about rather than under, you really don't want to get dry socket/hinder your healing process in some other way, the results can excruciating. Think of it as a chance to be more creative, if you're feeling amorous at all. Like some others that have commented, all I felt like doing for quite awhile after I got my wisdom teeth out was cuddling...and even then I was more interested in sleeping, watching movies, and drinking Jamba Juice.
celticdaisy 13th-Dec-2008 06:52 pm (UTC)
Looks like it's pretty variable as to how quick you can get back to doing that kind of stuff. But I wouldn't be worried about "pleasing" your boyfriend just after you've had surgery (and it is surgery and does take a toll on you). Take care of yourself first. Just because you can't have sex (oral or otherwise) doesn't mean you two can't enjoy each others time.

I had my wisdom teeth out last Thursday (9 days ago). They were impacted and I was awake when they were done but last weekend I was pretty bad. My face bruised and swelled really badly and I was on painkillers for 5 days, but by Thursday I could eat most foods again, and yesterday I went out for Thai and had a toasted sandwich and felt perfectly fine. It looks like that's pretty unusual though. I've already given my boyfriend limited oral but I wouldn't push yourself. I felt fine and my stitches didn't even hurt anymore when I did, and I only did it on the tip of his penis rather than trying to get him all in my mouth. Really wait until you don't feel any pain or discomfort and you're back on solid foods comfortably. You don't want to risk infection or hurting the sites.
cheesybunny 13th-Dec-2008 07:04 pm (UTC)
Well it wasn't my wisdom teeth but I had a back molar extracted. I started doing stuff again when I wasn't in horrible pain anymore, could start to eat normally, after I finished my prescription for pain killers and so on, things were pretty much fine by then. I'm no expert but it was pretty clear when it was ok to do things by the amount of pain that was or was not there.
birthingway 13th-Dec-2008 07:21 pm (UTC)
What I want to know is, what is he doing to please *you*?

(And yes--no penis-in-mouth right now, and not for at least 2 weeks.)
rocketbabydoll2 13th-Dec-2008 07:29 pm (UTC)
Two weeks after I got mine out, I went down on a guy. The only problem was that I still couldn't open my mouth very wide, so it was kind of complicated and I ended up giving up, but it wasn't painful or anything....
That being said, I'm surprised you're wondering this the day after you got them taken out!!! Haha. Sex was the absolute last thing on my mind at that point, what with the swollen face and vicoden-induced zombie state...
jackdiamond 13th-Dec-2008 10:08 pm (UTC)
Had mine out 11 days ago. I think I'd wait until the followup visit, see how the doc says you're healing, and maybe time yourself to how long the doc says you can resume normal activity/eating/etc. I wouldn't try anything until you're pain free and the stitches dissolve (that feels really weird), myself.

I'm old, so I can barely open my mouth still, and can't chew yet, so BF knows it'll be a while. And that referred pain...the indignity of not only having four holes in my mouth and those hurting, but other teeth randomly hurting as well! I didn't know teeth could ache. I am so sick of tomato soup and jello and pudding.
dayglow 13th-Dec-2008 11:02 pm (UTC)
I lived on mashed potatoes. :) They're mushy but more sustenance than just soup and don't get gunked up in your holes. I made the mistake of eating rice while mine were still deep... yeah, it's unpleasant trying to extract a grain of rice from a tender cavern in your gums.
dayglow 13th-Dec-2008 11:01 pm (UTC)
I got mine out.. last summer, I think? Maybe the summer before.

Anyway, I had a very easy extraction with the exception of them being in really horrible shape in the first place. I was really paranoid about dry socket so I didn't suck on anything for the longest time. Plus, my jaw was achey and sore in general for a good week or two, and then there was the issue of the GIGANTIC GAPING HOLES in my jaw. (I didn't get stitches.)

Imo, a month is probably a good time to wait. I know, I know, it sounds like forever, but a month with dry socket is going to be a lot less pleasant for you than a month without oral is going to be for him. He'll live.
my_neighborhood 13th-Dec-2008 11:46 pm (UTC)
Honestly I'd wait like a month. Infections are VERY VERY BAD as is sucking while the wound is open, as it can rip out the clot.
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