8:12 pm - 06/04/2008

Rough sex "consequences"?

So, my boyfriend and I are both really into rough sex--level of roughness comes and goes, but I absolutely loves pain, and he very much gets off on giving it to me, so it works out.

Last night (and this morning) were especially rough since he'd had a scene he'd been "saving up" for a while--without getting all pornoriffic on you, there was lots and lots of very, very deep penetration with his penis, various objects, sex toys, etc.

Well, this morning after another round, my uterus and vagina just ached--they were almost cramping, but not menstrually (it's right around ovulation time for me, so it's def not my period)--and when we were boinking, my cervix and vagina in general just felt a lot more sore than usual. I usually really like it when he hits my cervix, especially if he goes extra deep in doggy style, but this morning I just didn't seem to have the same tolerance.

Is it possible that we actually bruised my cervix and vagina and all that? We do get really rough--I pulled a muscle in my side from last night with how he had me tied up for a while--but it's not usually quite so... lingering. I did some research on bruised cervices, etc., but it made it sound like if that had happened, I'd be actively bleeding.

I'm not worried so much as curious as to what the actual physical after effects of really rough sex could be. I tried googling, but I only got hits for creepy news stories where the person ended up stabbing their partner or something, and, well, that's just not what I'm into.

preciouslilme 5th-Jun-2008 01:23 am (UTC)
It's not unusual at all for me to cramp a bit if the SO has been hitting my cervix during sex. The cervix moves throughout your cycle so it's possible it was just more delicate/in a lower position than usual. I don't think it's a bad thing unless it lasts for a long time (mine usually lasts about a day)
chiyo_no_saru 5th-Jun-2008 01:27 am (UTC)
That makes a lot of sense. It's already a lot better--it was mostly bad during and got really bad by about orgasm #6 or so--but after we took a break and I went to work and everything, it's feeling fine. I'm not about to, like, poke it with things, but it's not cramping any more.

I bet I could find a chart of cervical positions. Hm.

tornattheelbo 5th-Jun-2008 01:49 am (UTC)
it's totally possible to bruise your insides from hardcore fucking, ESPECIALLY with objects, make sure you take special care when you're using objects for insertion, try not to insert them too forcefully or deeply.

I'm sure once in a while is ok, but don't go doing this too often, obviously.

Tylenol or whatever your favorite analgesic for the pain, and don't hump if it hurts!
anduril_phoenix 5th-Jun-2008 02:31 am (UTC)
It happens a lot for me too, mostly because my boyfriend is rather well-endowed. I usually feel fine after a day or so though.
pygmybugs 5th-Jun-2008 08:00 am (UTC)
I've had a crampy day or two from getting my cervix jackhammered before, and I'm betting that one of the previous posters is probably on track with your cervix maybe sitting a little differently that day (you said you were right around ovulation, so maybe that's it?).

Do be careful with the objects, though. I'm a big fan of pain play, too, and I have to be careful because my pain tolerance goes through the roof during sexytime and I've injured myself a little more than I was planning on by just not being able to feel how bad something was hurting. With PI-whatever, at least he's got nerves on the bits he's hammering you with, so he'd be able to feel if something's weird. Vaginas are amazingly resilient, but they're not indestructable.

Just don't plop into a hard chair for a couple of days. If it keeps hurting past that, I'd say see the doc, though.
c_justis help..8th-Jan-2010 02:56 am (UTC)
if you have sex too hard, will that hurt your chances of getting pregnant??
Agynesse sfh Hello.2nd-Apr-2017 07:59 am (UTC)
2017 and yes I am actually reading and leaving a comment at this moment of time but this is the only article that somehow has doors to enlightenment relating to this topic "the consequences of good, hard pounding and the aftermath" (and your response will be greatly appreciated) My question is: if rough sex has ever resulted to minimal cramps AND incontinence, (like it has been difficult for me to hold my pee though it's not painful tonpee at all) is this something serious that I should consider seeking medical help or is this some kind of you'll-get-used-to-it stage? XOXO
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