12:45 am - 01/25/2007

What does the vagina normally feel like inside?

When I insert my finger into my vagina, either when I'm not aroused or just after an orgasm (although still not sure about the latter since any muscle contraction contributed to an orgasm lasts for about 3 seconds), the walls are slick, but incredibly *hard.* If I press updwards, it feels like I'm touching a bone. Same goes for pressing on the sides. Nothing gives (which is kinda worrisome if I plan to have sex in the future) like the way the muscle should. I've always found two fingers painful, but one finger is definitely doable, although in no way pleasurable.

Anyway, I just wanted to know what the inside of the vagina is supposed to feel like. I've read in the other posts that there' bumps and ridges, and it's not that that I'm feeling. It really does feel like bone, which has me confused since there is no bone near the vagana, except for the pevlis, which is what I *think* I'm feeling when I'm pressing upwards (although, again, god knows how painful that's going to be during intercourse).
ex_aria_sta 25th-Jan-2007 06:03 am (UTC)
Honey, pressing up you ARE hitting the pelvic bone. :) You are completely normal. No two vaginas are going to be the same. I take it you are a virgin by your last comment. Don't worry, you'll be fine.
lobo_solitario 25th-Jan-2007 01:50 pm (UTC)
Pressing up, like I said, I kinda figured it was my pelvic bone. But I was confused as to why the sides and bottom feel as hard as when I touch my pelvic bone. Someone else explained it to me nicely, comparing the walls to the bicep muscle and how the flesh might give, but the muscle doesn't. It just confuses me because if I penis fits, and a baby fits, then why are three fingers so painful to insert? Two is possible, if really painful sometimes, but it's still really tight. And why doesn't it give if I apply pressure from one finger? Or, maybe it's because it has to be stretched at the opening (or from the cervix, if we're talking about a baby) before the rest of the vaginal walls give and open up wider.
tornattheelbo 25th-Jan-2007 03:40 pm (UTC)
if it feels hard on the bottom you probably have to poop. no joke.
asunlitrose 25th-Jan-2007 06:21 am (UTC)
Instead of feeling up, put your finger in angled towards your lower back. Sounds like you're feeling your pubic bone, and if you angle towards your lower back (the vagina is naturally angled) it should go easier. The vagina doesn't go straight up and down. :)
lobo_solitario 25th-Jan-2007 01:18 pm (UTC)
One finger does go in easily, but my question was if the walls of the vagina are supposed to be that hard. I kind of figured that by pressing up I was touching my pubic bone (and I'm also wondering how the position of sitting on top of the other person is pleasurable, since I've found that my vagina is really, *really* tight if I try to insert my finger while sitting up straight). But I'm not sure if the sides and bottom should feel like I'm touching bone too.
queensugar 25th-Jan-2007 06:42 am (UTC)
You can definitely feel your pelvic bone through your vagina... it tunnels right through the opening in your pelvis... so that's quite probably what you're feeling. Sometimes for fun I stick a finger in there and feel over the ridge of the pelvic bone. I have no idea why that's fun, but it is.

As for the rest... penetration alone generally isn't pleasurable, especially if you're not fully aroused. I personally don't find it pleasurable even during complete arousal. On the plus side, the average length of an orgasm is about three seconds, so that's quite normal as well. :)
lobo_solitario 25th-Jan-2007 01:24 pm (UTC)
So you can even feel your pelvic bone from the sides and bottom too? I have that deffinent ridge that I know is my pelvic bone on the top, but I'm confused as to why the sides and bottom are so hard. I always thought the vagina walls where supposed to give and be soft.
queensugar 25th-Jan-2007 01:32 pm (UTC)
I know I can feel my pelvis from one side in my vagina. The other I can't (at least not from the angle I'm poking at right now) but what I definitely do feel on that side is some very, very tough ligament / tendon type of tissue -- that's not supposed to give, and it does tend to be extremely firm. I suspect everyone is slightly different in this regard, but it's certainly not inconceivable that you would be able to feel your pelvis from most angles.

The walls of the vagina aren't really supposed to be soft and they definitely don't yield when you press on them -- it's a very muscular organ. I mean, when I sort of half-make a bicep and press on that, the muscles of my arm don't yield much either... the skin and fat layer on top of the muscle does, but not the muscle itself.
lobo_solitario 25th-Jan-2007 01:36 pm (UTC)
Ah, okay. I never thought of it like that. I just always assumed it was supposed to yield if you press on it because it's supposed to yield when a penis is inserted, or even bigger, a baby comes out (although I know for that your whole pelvis shifts).

Thanks for answering my question. In the future I should probably just keep to the basics and have no afterthought type remarks, I've found that people tend to address those instead of my main question.
queensugar 25th-Jan-2007 01:48 pm (UTC)
It's not really supposed to yield for a penis. The idea is more that as the vagina gets used to arousal, it expands lengthwise and opens up in order to allow penetration to occur. There is some yield there, primarily at the entrance, but for the most part the vagina opens itself up to allow for penetration.
tintaglia30 25th-Jan-2007 10:48 am (UTC)
Okay, what everyone else says about your pubic bone.
But, I have to say when you do get round to having intercourse, worring about how painful it will be will garuantee pain. You need to chill, and learn to enjoy being touched in that area, either by yourself or a partner. It CAN be very enjoyable being touched, even on the inside. I can't garuantee you will have a vaginal orgasm, some girls only get clitoral ones, but it should still feel nice having the body part of your choice inside of you.
My first time I was super tense, and yeah, it was uncomfortable. Once I chilled out, it all worked a whole lot better! :)
fire_fly 25th-Jan-2007 01:10 pm (UTC)
When I first became sexually active, it took me almost a year for manual sex (AKA fingering) to stop hurting (never had any other kind of penetrative sex in that time). Lack of arousal and lubrication weren't a problem.
I'm not sure how "normal" it is in terms of other women experiencing it, but I didn't think it was problematic. I just figured that my vagina needed to be stretched out before penetration was more enjoyable. AFAIK, that's pretty normal for vaginas.
scien 25th-Jan-2007 01:55 pm (UTC)
If you press up and it feels like bone... that's because it is bone! hehe. You can also still feel your pubic bone to the sides a bit, but it should be further away.
cfoxrun 25th-Jan-2007 05:17 pm (UTC)
If you're worried, there is nothing wrong with going to a gyno to ask if you're normal. Everyone needs to go for pap smears eventually.

Everything in me is squishy unless I flex/squeeze the muscles. You might just be tense?
skeos 25th-Jan-2007 11:44 pm (UTC)
I think you are probably just tense--which is not condusive to having sex, in my experience.

I have been sexually active for almost a year now (and I've had a lot of sex in that time, with an above-average sized partner) but I still have a hard time getting fingered with more than one finger. It only works out when I'm really turned on. Fingers are shaped much differently than penises!
persephonesix 26th-Jan-2007 09:52 am (UTC)
okay, up is pelvic bone. you're right on that. I am thinking that the sides feel hard because you are tense and you are a virgin so arent used to things up there (I am guessing on that, but if more than one finger hurts than I think its a safe bet). I know when I am tensing my muscles or my legs, the sides get somewhat hard for the first few inches. farther down everything is soft.

as for the down part being hard, I agree with what another poster said and that is: you might need to poop. I have felt poop before and it is very hard compared to everything else surrounding it. next time you take a big crap, feel around in there shortly afterwards. hopefully it'll feel different and then you'll know if that was what was causing it or not

also, if you are tense, try relaxing and pressing into the side as you do. if it gives a bit more than you'll know the hardness is caused by being tense. to "loosen things up a bit" try pressing your finger in a circular motion and relax while doing it. doing that for a while should help prepare you for an additional finger. (just for when you might want more than one)

:-)
persephonesix 26th-Jan-2007 09:53 am (UTC)
I meant, of course, that I have felt poop while having a finger inside my vagina. I haven't felt actual poop before lol ew
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