9:56 am - 06/22/2006

overly sensitive clit

it seems like my clit is so sensitive, it doesn't even feel good to be touched. it's always been like that. it's larger than normal and when my boyfriend tries to rub it, it's just uncomfortable. is this normal? i don't think there's anything i can do change it, but i'd sure take comfort in the fact that i'm not alone. also, i have trouble orgasming... i can count the number of actual body quaking orgasms i've had on one hand. this doesn't make sense. you'd think because i'm overly sensitive, i'd cum easier... is there anything i can do? do i need to wait til i'm more aroused and it won't be so uncomfortable to touch it? i just don't know anymore.
neaira 22nd-Jun-2006 04:11 pm (UTC)
I don't really understand when you say it's larger than normal, because every woman is different and has different sized everythings. Has it been getting bigger?

Also, not all clits are sensitive in the good way, unfortunately. Sometimes I don't want mine touched at all. Does the uncomfortable aspect go away when you're aroused?
kceleste 22nd-Jun-2006 04:42 pm (UTC)
it hasn't been GETTING larger, sorry i was unclear on that... it's just always been big. i've heard it from partners in the past, and noticed it was bigger than ANY girl's in a porn. but it's not like disgustingly large. and i'm generally a small person. (5'5, 115 lb)... it doesn't go away when i get aroused, i might just not feel it as much... so is it pretty much hopeless?
neaira 22nd-Jun-2006 04:45 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't say it's hopeless, since there are ways you can get around it, like the commenter below suggested, rubbing around the area instead of the clitoris itself. Using a lot of lube might help?

I take issue with anyone who compares porn stars to real women, as a great deal of porn stars these days are pumped full of so much silicone they don't even look like women anymore. So what if your clit doesn't look like a porn stars? That's what makes you special and unique!
kceleste 22nd-Jun-2006 04:43 pm (UTC)
rubbing the skin around it is a good idea, thanks <3
the_leh 22nd-Jun-2006 06:11 pm (UTC)
I have an extremely sensitive clit as well. The good news about this issue is that it's easy to orgasm *if* the right stimulation is uses, the bad news, is well, most stimulation is not comfortable. Have you tried very soft touching, over underwear? Sometimes you just have to take it really slow and some people NEVER like direct touching with fingers onto their clit (I never really have much).

Lastly, I have had pain in my clit/inability to orgasm when I had a yeast infection. So that's worth looking into.
__recidivist 22nd-Jun-2006 07:12 pm (UTC)
Some women's clits are jsut too sensitive for direct stimulation. You might try being stimulated while wearing silk underwear, or rubbing the area around your clit and the clitoral hood and lips without coming into direct contact with the clit itself.
Your partner may have been with other people with less sensitive clitorises. Talk to him about going slower, with less pressure, less directly, or whatever until you figure out what works for you to make things feel good.
I think i'd also advise considering some masturbation sessions. When you self-stimulate, you have a much greater connexion between "that feels good" and "that's intense and uncomfortable".
Lastly, one word: Lube.

Good luck!

lisa.
fadingtogray 22nd-Jun-2006 11:22 pm (UTC)
Every woman is different when it comes to clit stimulation. It's just the way it is. Also - sometimes it changes over time. I used to only be able to stand minimal stimulation directly to my clit, and I could never stand a guy sucking on it during oral - now it's one of the things that drives me most crazy.

I think one of the keys to the elusive orgasm is learning what you like. Even if you can orgasm by yourself but not with a partner - it takes time for most poeple to get to a point where their partners know what they do and don't like, and that will change with every person you're with. Communication is absoltuely key here. I know in my current relationship the sexual aspect was very ho-hum at first. Now that we've had sufficent time to feel each other out (and up ;) ) it's absolutely amazing.
die_in_a_fire 23rd-Jun-2006 01:11 am (UTC)
My clit doesn't like to be touched. It's so intense that it HURTS. Manually, I have to rub through the hood moderately hard.
Oral sex, however, is my godsend. I find that licking verrry slowly with a flat tongue covers enough area that even if the clit takes a direct hit, the touch of a tongue is so soft and warm and spread out over a larger area that it doesn't bother me.
nightchild01 24th-Jun-2006 09:14 am (UTC)
You said that you think your clit is too big because you compared it to porn stars. Porn stars aren't the best examples to compare yourself to, most of them don't have much in the way of labia minora and their clitorises are usually really small. Have you checked out VagPag's Everyday Body Project (link: http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/3530926.html )?

I really don't know what to suggest to you other than what the other poster suggested about rubbing the skin around it.

Good luck!
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