5:27 pm - 01/20/2005

submit your gyno horror story/awesome gyno story

all right. as some of you may know, i'm a medical student, and planning to be a gynecologist. (i'm 99.99% sure!) right now, i'm studying neuroscience, and it's killing me. i need something to read other than diagrams of the brainstem.

would you be so kind as to submit your best "gyno horror story"?
i am here to try to learn, and not make the same mistakes others have made.
"wonderful, amazing gyno stories" will also be accepted. :-)

thanks very much in advance. it means a lot to me.

p.s. to be fair, here is mine: i went to planned parenthood for a pap when i was about 17. the young woman who examined me first seemed to be feeling something unusual. she made a funny face and said "let me get the doctor from the other room". i started freaking out that she was feeling a vaginal cancer or something. the doctor came back, felt where the first one had been, and pulled out this tampon! it was the most embarassing experience ever, because i had no idea the tampon was there, and i still have no idea how long it had been there (and i had been having sex and everything). i'm kind of absentminded. needless to say i use a menstrual cup now. :-) was that embarrassing enough or what?

edit: i am technically looking for stories about good and bad gynos, not necessarily just freaky experiences. but that's my best story. :-)
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hikerpoet 21st-Jan-2005 02:55 am (UTC)
My worst experience isn't all that awful, but the first one I went to when i was fifteen or sixteeen was like 75 years old...must have been about to retire--he had actually delivered me. Anyway, he just sort of treated me like a 70 year old woman, question/concern/test-wise...probably how old most of his patients were! So I switched and now have a more appropriate one. I guess you probably won't have that problem, unless you do decide to specialize in geriatrics, but I guess you could watch out for the reverse, and be extra careful to plan each patient by age, although I'm sure they teach you those things these days, unlike when this guy was in med school and they probably didn't like to talk about teens having sex. Well, that may be an exaggeration, but you know what i mean.
sulingsi 21st-Jan-2005 03:06 am (UTC)
hey, no, you're totally right. you wouldn't believe it, but even for me, i've had two years of medical school including clinical interviewing course and they still haven't taught me how to take a sexual history (and probably won't!).

i definitely plan to specialize in adolescents in underserved areas, but i guess i'll probably have to deal with a few old geezers on the way.
dial_zero 22nd-Jan-2005 12:03 am (UTC)
Advice: you probably shouldn't call 'em geezers (at least not to their face) :P
plumosa 21st-Jan-2005 04:43 am (UTC)
i once had a different doc than normal (regular doc not gyno) and he was being all creepy. he traced my tattoo on my upper arm and then asked me if i'd like a breast exam.

needless to say, i said 'hell no.'

as for gyno, the worst thing that's happened is last month when i went in for my IUD insertion...i was up on the table and waiting for her to come back when she told me we'd have to reschedule because they didn't have any non-iodine based cleaner. (what they had left was expired) i was so disappointed because i'd been there for 2 hours already.

i rescheduled it for two days later but by then my period was over and the insertion hurt a LOT. but all in all, it wasn't the gyno's fault, but the support staff, and she was very nice about everything!
greygirl 21st-Jan-2005 04:54 am (UTC)
When I was a teenager, I had horribly painful periods. Not "Ow, a cramp" painful. I'm talking spending five days out of every month curled in the fetal position on the bathroom floor, alternately puking and passing out from the intense pain. I finally went to my mom and asked her to make an appointment for me with the doctor. I was 16 at the time, and I'd never been to a gynecologist before, so mom just made me an appointment with the guy she'd been going to for years. I wasn't thrilled with seeing a man, but back then I was a good little girl who did as I was told. I told the guy, with much mortification, about my intense pain and incredibly heavy bleeding. He barely listened, then said he'd so a pap smear, since I was there and everything. He didn't explain anything he was doing, just had me get in the stirrups. With absolutely no warning, he shoved an ice-cold speculum into me, and I was a virgin at the time. It hurt like hell. The whole thing was over in about a minute, since he didn't take time to talk to me at all or tell me what was going on. When he was done, he just said everything looked fine, everyone gets cramps, and I should take some Midol and quit being a baby. He refused to give me the pill, because he was convinced I'd take it as permission to have promiscuous, pre-marital sex.

Thanks to that asshole, I suffered for another 3 years, thinking I was the most pathetic person on the planet for being such a whiner, before I went to another doctor who put me on the pill, which pretty much fixed the problem.
infiniteblue25 21st-Jan-2005 06:17 am (UTC)
When I was 15 and having lots of sex I took myself down to the Clarksville ,tn health dept to get on BC. The nurse taking my sexual history was an uptight wench and when asked how many partners I had had I said 7 and she said WHOA girl you need to slow down. The doctor didn't say a word to me and shoved a HUGE cold speculum in me that wouldn't even open all the way...and had to get a smaller one. I dunno what he was thinking like maybe big girl=big puss? He was very rough and did a rectal exam without any warning or permission. PLUS he looked exactly like the Dad from "fresh prince of bel-air"a pissed off version. The nurse who was with me in the exam room was great and very soothing older german(I think) woman who held my hand and everything. After the exam the doctor said "is this your first exam?"...yeah AFTER and then a suprised OH... Anyway, later that week I go to meet my Dad's new girlfriend and guess who it is?... The uptight nurse from the beginning of my visit hahah.
instantclarity one of each21st-Jan-2005 09:19 am (UTC)
When I was 16, I had my first pelvic exam--I was a virgin and had never even used a tampon, but my periods were extremely erratic... anyway, literally no one had touched me down there for any reason--and it hurt so bad. I started to cry and hyperventilate and tried to just put my hands over my eyes, and the present nurse pinned my hands down to the table so I couldn't have even the small comfort of touching my face. The doctor forced through the whole painful procedure, answering my cries that I'd rather have her stop and just continue with my irregular periods with "this is really necessary,you need to just relax," and I bawled. Later, after a handful of painful pelvic exams (for which I was sedated) and impossible or at least painful sex, I found out that I had vaginismus. (Here's the good story:) A sympathetic gyno explained the condition to me, gave me resources and advice, and was patient and really caring--she seemed personally involved. Because of that, I've gotten through my problems and no longer have trouble with pelvic exams or sex. I'll be grateful to her forever!

And congrats on your career choice, and good vibes and good luck to you.
zoyee 21st-Jan-2005 11:37 am (UTC)
Okay, here is my story. I started going to the gyno when I was 15 because I had endometriosis and was getting ovarian cysts. I probably went to 3 different gynos b/c my mom wanted to get different opinions to make sure I really do need the surgery that was suggested. Anyhow, it was the first doc I saw, she came in the room, got me up in the stirrips, I was naked with a sheet over me and she gets a phone call. She leaves me in the middle of the exam, I believe the speculem (sp?) was even still in. Plus I was a virgin and just having the speculem in hurt like hell. Well, she didn't shut the door all the way and just left it open, PLUS, she didn't come back for probably over 30 minutes. I couldn't believe it. It was a female doctor so she didn't have a nurse in there to help her I almost got off there and shut the door or yell, if it were to happen now I would have taken the thing out myself and left. But I was a young girl and only 15, my first gyno appointment and I didn't really know what to expect it was when I went to the other doctors for the 2nd and 3rd opioions that I realized that what she did was totally WRONG. Well, seems that all the other doctors agreed with her and I did need the surgery, ans since then I have had 11 more, its been crazy but now I have an awesome doc, my last surgery I had to stay in the hospital so he brought me these two teddy bears in dr outfits to "keep me company." They were the bears that he got when he graduated from medical school that he keeps in his office. So when I went back for my post op appointment I put them back on his shelf. Hes just a great guy. Always gives me suggestions but never pushes anything on me. But thats my story.
ptilu 21st-Jan-2005 02:02 pm (UTC)
It's crazy how many stories I hear about gynos leaving you naked with your feet in stirrups and leaving for some long time. This seems so incredibly rude.
All the gynos I've ever seen made me get naked at the last moment before my exam, and dress again as soon as it's over. The one I saw this week week didn't even make me remove my sweater, only my pants and underwear.

Your story about the teddy bears is so totally cute. That doctor is definitely a keeper.
sshi 21st-Jan-2005 11:32 pm (UTC)
you mean they have normally left you there with no clothes on??
any smear test that I've had, it's been bottom-clothes off only - what there hell need is there for you to take your shirt off if they're not looking at anything above the waist?
dial_zero 22nd-Jan-2005 12:08 am (UTC)
Often they'll have you get nekked with a sheet so they can do the pelvic and breast exam in the same appointment.
ptilu 22nd-Jan-2005 12:32 pm (UTC)
Well, they usually do the breast exam while I'm there. But this last gyno managed to do it under my clothes without making me take them off.
sulingsi 21st-Jan-2005 10:42 pm (UTC)
wow. other doctors will never cease to amaze me. that's really rough. i'm sorry you had that experience, but glad you had another good one.
shes_unreal 21st-Jan-2005 09:21 pm (UTC)
This is kind of random but when I went to the gyno for the first time, he was looking at my folder that had all my other health information since I was going to the student health center and all doc's reports get put into one folder. I can't even remember how we got on the topic, I think it was just chit-chat, but I'd said something about this other doctor telling me I had high cholesterol, and he glanced at my paperwork and said, "you don't have high cholesterol at all."

Then we got into this whole discussion about my diet.

I actually thought it was cool because he was super nice.

Also when he was examining my breasts, I was wearing the little paper vest-thing and whenever it would fall to expose the breast he wasn't examining, he'd kind of tug it back into place. I really didn't care if he saw both of my boobs at the same time but it seemed like a nice gesture for people who are sensitive about having strangers look at them without their clothes.
shes_unreal 21st-Jan-2005 09:27 pm (UTC)
I guess I should also mention, since a lot of other people are talking about bad speculum experiences, that the doctor told me in detail everything he was going to do (even though a nurse had explained it to me when I made the appointment), and used a plastic disposeable speculum so it wasn't really cold. He put his hand on my leg and told me what he was going to do before he did it and when he inserted the speculum and I was laying there thinking "owie, owie, owie," he kept saying, "Just a little bit longer... just a bit longer," which was reassuring too. Plus he didn't chit-chat when he was handling my boobs or my twat, which was cool, because it would have seemed kind of weird otherwise. :)
dial_zero 22nd-Jan-2005 12:14 am (UTC)
I haven't had a really bad or a really good exam. I once had a NP who kept a running monologue of what she was doing--it made it go so quickly! She also did this thing where she said, "I'm going to put my hand on your thigh and travel up" so it wouldn't suddenly be "OH MY GOD STRANGE HAND IN MY UNIT!" Every time she had to touch me, she didn't just stick her hands in there, but moved up from my inner thigh. Some might have found this freaky (maybe you could ask them what they prefer) but I found it comforting. Also, I liked it when she talked during the swabs so distract me.
lemon__lies 22nd-Jan-2005 06:15 pm (UTC)
I went to a new gyno the last time i needed a pap, he was the same obgyn that delivered my little brother, I'm used to going so i wasn't too freaked out but it was weird that he was a man and that he has also examined my mother. Anyways after he was done he said (with my legs stilli n stirrups) well Rachel it's been a pleasure, he then patted me on the knee and said "Good for one year or 50,000 miles whichever comes first" he then winked at me and walked out. I can't imagine what the look on my face much have been. That wasn't a good or bad experience just very very weird!
lonestaryella03 Lol, I have an embarassing moment...3rd-Apr-2005 06:00 am (UTC)
Umm, had a pap scheduled with my regular OBGYN. The only reason why I dread going is the lonnnggg wait. So anyway, the nurse calls my name, puts me in a room and does my weight and all my vitals (Heart rate, blood pressure, etc.) and tells me to get undressed (the usual). She leaves the room...So I'm layin there...bottomless from the waist down, jsut chillin...Lookin at the pictures of babies that my doc has delivered and readin a mag. Then...the most horrible thing happens...my stomach tightens...damn...I knew what it was: G-A-S. I was already undressed so I couldn't walk out of the room. I had already been int here for a few minutes, so if I did walk out to go to the bathroom, one, I probably wouldn't have made it and two, my doc would have came in and wondered where I was...So I decided to let it go in that small ass room, hopin it'd be one of those mostly-air farts (lmao, yea right...). To my dismay, it filled the room. I IMMEDIATELY started to panic and waved my magazine around like crazy tryin to air out the room. But I figured as long as the door was closed, it was goin anywhere. So I decided to just say fuck it...I was expectin my doc and his nurse to walkin there and make disgusted faces as soon as they caught a wiff, but no such thing. I guess my exasperating fanning took care of it. But it was still very embarassing, nontheless...lol...glad that exam was over...
get_rid_of_hurd 11th-Apr-2005 01:55 pm (UTC)
I'm from the UK, have only had one smear test and it was fine. I did worry about it quite a bit but I actually thought it was much less worse than going to the dentist! The doctor who did it was male but there was a nurse who talked me through it and sort of said 'this is the bit some people find the worst...OK, that's the worst bit over, OK you're done!' so I knew what was going on. It didn't hurt and the swabbing only stung for a second. The doctor was just pleasant and matter of fact, didn't manhandle me and was nice and gentle with the speculum. The big paper dress they put on you will always feel a little freakish though, and all the lube they put on the speculum kept dripping out of me for the rest of the day...eurgh! It did make it a pain free experience though. They were very non judgemental when asking the sex history questions also.
I had a friend who went for a general health check and was really taken aback when they put a cotton bud up her backside! They didn't warn her about it or explain why they were doing it - in fact, can anyone explain that to me? I think that's really bad, it's very important that the doctor always tells you what they're doing and why, and before rather than after the procedure too!
makayasmom 27th-Apr-2005 06:45 am (UTC)
My first exam was when I went to see a midwife for pre-natal care. I had my husband come in the room for support, but he was on strict orders to stay by my head. Once she had the spec in, she says to my husband"Come down and have a look". WHAT!! I didn't even have a chance to object before he was down there taking it all in. I'm a very private and modest person, so this was horribly embarrassing. This was almost 4 years ago, and it still bothers me to this day. If there is one piece of advice I can give you, it would be ALWAYS ask before you do something, and tell women what you are going to do BEFORE you do it. Oh, and make sure you listen to the answer and respect their wishes. It's their body not yours.
starpolish 6th-Oct-2005 04:17 am (UTC)
I know this is an older post, but I was perusing the memories and thought I'd let you know about my experience.

I had my first gyno exam yesterday. I went in, had all the normal vitals done, and the nurse sat me down and asked a few questions, like if I had used tampons and if I was there for routine or a problem. When I mentioned I wanted to go on BC just a precaution (I'm a virgin and will probably be one for awhile, but I am in a relationship and want to be prepared) she said "Oooh, so some special young man is really lucky." Which made me laugh and relax a little. I was really nervous, since I hate going to the doctor.

The doctor made it very obvious that she was very happy I was choosing to go on HBC before I became sexually active and that I refused to have sex without a condom (my boyfriend is not a virgin). She explained exactly what she was going to do, though I didn't get to see the speculum. That's okay, because it probably would have been worse for me to see it. I did cry during the exam, but that was nerves, and it did hurt, but she slowed down the second I made a noise and asked if I was okay. She also said "Feel free to tell me if it hurts, or even yell at me, but don't kick me!" She also had warmed the speculum, which is great because I'd heard so many cold speculum stories. It wouldn't go in at first, so she did the finger exam (er, what is that called?) and told me if I relaxed a bit I should be fine.

She told me that I was very "snug" and probably nto ready for sex yet, so gave me some tips on how to get ready so my first time doesn't have to be (very) painful, which I found extremely helpful. I'm glad she told me about that, though I already had some idea of what she was explaining.

She also let me examine a sample of the Nuvaring, told me how BC is much less risky than pregnancy, and asked, when I was telling her it hurt, if I wanted her nurse to come in and hold my hand. I didn't request the nurse to chaperone because I felt more comfortable with fewer people, but it was really nice that she asked.
starpolish 6th-Oct-2005 04:19 am (UTC)
By "not ready" she meant phsyically ready, and made no mention of my emotional readiness or any judgement on it. She told me she really didn't think intercourse should have to be painful the first. The way she put it was actually pretty humorous. "Yeah, you're not really ready for something penis sized, yet."
mezzystar 5th-Nov-2005 05:34 am (UTC)
I've only been once, but the one time I did go, I had a doctor and another woman who was training, I guess. So whatever the doctor would do, the trainee would also do, and let me tell you, it's pretty awkward having two perfect strangers stick their fingers in your vagina and converse about it to one another. The trainee seemed nervous, which made me feel weird, and it was just an uncomfortable experience.
fixedzero 27th-Dec-2005 12:45 am (UTC)
my gyno is the king of the universe in my books, but I do have a bit of a horror story - the first time that I ever had a pap, it was when I went on the pill, before I started having sex with my boyfriend. My doctor sort of misunderstood me and thought that we'd already started having sex, so when he was explaining the speculum to me, he just went "it'll be uncomfortable, but it doesn't usually hurt for someone who's sexually active."

and then in it went.

jessica burke Traumatic23rd-Aug-2012 11:15 pm (UTC)
my worst experience was when i was in the E.R. when i miscarried my daughter. I was 17, i know young but they treated me so terrible. I waited in the waiting room for 4 hours (My Boyfriend and I were the first on the list but little kids with the sniffles went before us) When it came time for the GYNO exam i asked for a girl and i met this nice Asian lady she told me she would do my exam. She disappeared and this young male doctor came in, told my Boyfriend he couldn't be in the room and i was too hysterical to make out "I want him in the room" clear enough apparently. The boyfriend was pissed he couldn't be by my side. The guy didn't say a word to me the whole time!! No "Hello" nothing after what seemed like forever of him probing me around with his fingers and what ever the hell else he had down there he got up and left...just left. He told my boyfriend i had a miscarriage, so i had to be told by my man. I had my clothes back on and i could lay down because the sheets were soaked with blood, the doctor didn't clean it up so my man just threw it out. We cried for awhile after of course. But my man is a paramedic he is around hospitals ALL the time and he said he was astounded with the way they treated us. I still have flash backs of it. oh and the nurse who took my blood work; I am terrified of needles so i was crying but im not resistant or anything, she grabs my arm and tells me to grow up...I still have nightmares. (BTW Children's Hospital Buffalo New York....just saying (: )
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