5:27 pm - 01/20/2005

submit your gyno horror story/awesome gyno story

all right. as some of you may know, i'm a medical student, and planning to be a gynecologist. (i'm 99.99% sure!) right now, i'm studying neuroscience, and it's killing me. i need something to read other than diagrams of the brainstem.

would you be so kind as to submit your best "gyno horror story"?
i am here to try to learn, and not make the same mistakes others have made.
"wonderful, amazing gyno stories" will also be accepted. :-)

thanks very much in advance. it means a lot to me.

p.s. to be fair, here is mine: i went to planned parenthood for a pap when i was about 17. the young woman who examined me first seemed to be feeling something unusual. she made a funny face and said "let me get the doctor from the other room". i started freaking out that she was feeling a vaginal cancer or something. the doctor came back, felt where the first one had been, and pulled out this tampon! it was the most embarassing experience ever, because i had no idea the tampon was there, and i still have no idea how long it had been there (and i had been having sex and everything). i'm kind of absentminded. needless to say i use a menstrual cup now. :-) was that embarrassing enough or what?

edit: i am technically looking for stories about good and bad gynos, not necessarily just freaky experiences. but that's my best story. :-)
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kathleeniefont 20th-Jan-2005 10:46 pm (UTC)
at my very first gyno appointment, when asking me the general sex questions that they always ask, the gyno got this really sympathetic look on her face, patted my knee and said, "oh, so it's been awhile, hasn't it?"

>.<

way to make me feel awesome about my sex life.
sulingsi 20th-Jan-2005 11:04 pm (UTC)
i hope you don't mind but i do find that funny in retrospect. :-) i think it's a bad idea to make any sort of judgment calls on answers to those questions, in general.
suewin 20th-Jan-2005 10:48 pm (UTC)
I went in for my 1st yeast infection, I some how made it past 30 with out have ONE!? after about 2 weeks of the otc stuff not cutting it I finally went in, I didn't want to be there, didn't want to be told I had a yeast infection... I dont know it just seem insulting to me, like I wasn't taking care of myself and that's why I got it ...
Anyway I'm undressed waist down, with that damn paper covering me, and left in the room for over 30 minutes! I kept wondering if I should just get dressed and leave or at least poke my head out to see if I was forgotten. Finally the nurse comes in all I'm so sorry over and over, we had a "situation" but the Dr will be right in. Not sure of what the situation was, but it just was bad timing, the fact that I just sooooo did not want to be there.
Sure it was just a yeast infection and the Dr made me realize it just happens and not to make a big deal of it.
But the anxiety I built up, and then sitting there have naked was just horrible.
blushingflower 20th-Jan-2005 10:52 pm (UTC)
I don't have any of my own, but my Mom does:
My mother had an appointment. Her period came, so she called the doctor's office to say that she had her period and to reschedule. The receptionist/nurse/whoever told her she should come in anyway. The doctor who examined her wasn't her usual doctor. When he went to examine her, he got a disgusted look on his face, as though she was dirty and gross. She told the doctor that they had said it was ok, but she was really embarrassed. Seriously, shouldn't a gynocologist be cool with a little menstrual blood?
sulingsi 20th-Jan-2005 11:06 pm (UTC)
that's really bizarre, actually. maybe she was just reading into it, or he was actually thinking of something else? i mean, i'm assuming she probably did interpret the look correctly, but it's really weird since especially with obstetrics, you see all kinds of blood and feces and stuff all the time. in fact, the ob/gyn i used to shadow made the verbatim remark "we frolic in feces". it was a little disturbing. :-)
mangosorbet007 20th-Jan-2005 10:54 pm (UTC)
At the ripe old age of 35 I had the first degrading vaginal exam of my life (after much preferring them to dentist's appointments for the 18 years of sexual activity before that). It was so rough and unpleasant. I bled for the first time after an exam too. I went home shaking, took a shower, and never had that "woman" touch me again. (in case you're wondering: Rutgers University/Douglass College Health Services, Dr. Malkani)
yafah 20th-Jan-2005 11:00 pm (UTC)
Rutgers has an AWESOME gyno on Livingston. Her appointments are backed up like 2 months.
luvleelocs 20th-Jan-2005 10:57 pm (UTC)
My bad gyno expierence involved a extremely attractive medical student being in the room during my exam. He is so hot! He stood behind her during the whole pap, I was so tense she kept asking me to relax my legs a little. I couldnt belive he was actually looking at me down there and listening to me take about my sexual history. So anyway there was a lump in my breast so the doctor asked if it was ok if he could feel for himself so he could get the hang of it. I was so embrassed all I could do was close my eyes and remember to breath.
sulingsi 20th-Jan-2005 11:08 pm (UTC)
actually, in my experience the second embarrassing part i didn't mention was that up til that point in the exam, i had already been a bit uncomfortable because the first woman to examine me was young and i thought she was attractive, and i was getting wet when she was doing the bimanual exam. yikes! of course the whole tampon thing definitely killed the mood. :-)
fumblerette1 20th-Jan-2005 11:01 pm (UTC)
When I was 16 I started having sex with my boyfriend. Somehow we got folliculitis (inflamation of the hair follicles) in our pubes, and neither one of us knew what it was. So first off, we had to tell my mom what happened, because I didn't know how to make my own dr. appts. Then I went to see my GP first, which was a pediatrician at the time. I didn't get to see my regular dr who I love, I saw this old guy. And he like yelled at me and was really judgemental about the fact that I had had sex, and what was wrong with me wasn't even related to sex at all! But when I went to see my actual GYN for the first time, she was awesome. She is just a really pleasant woman, and she talks the whole time about different things. And she does it quickly. I think the actual physical part of my last exam lasted about 3 minutes.
angelicsatan 20th-Jan-2005 11:05 pm (UTC)
at my first gyno one the doctor was checking me out and goes ' thats odd" and I ask her what and she goes " have you ever had braces?" I shake my head no and raise a brow and she says " you have perfect teeth"

This was my first gyno appointment and the last thing I wanted to hear was I had nice teeth, instead I wanted to get out of there!
sulingsi 20th-Jan-2005 11:09 pm (UTC)
i guess that just goes to show that depending on the circumstances/person, anything you say can be the wrong thing.
yafah 20th-Jan-2005 11:05 pm (UTC)
The second time I went to the gyno I went to the woman my mom goes to. I asked her about going on a different pill from ortho tricyclen, she said there weren't any other options especially since i had a history of depression (which was heightened by the pill). She told me I shouldn't drink and gave me all kinds of a lecture before giving me the exam.

THEN she proceeded to use a gigantic speculum, jammed it in an wrenched it all the way open even though beforehand I told her I was a virgin. I told her that it hurt and asked her to close it a little, but instead she kept opening it farther and then wiggled it around from side to side to make it worse. I actually started crying. She then repeatedly asked me if I was a virgin like she didn't believe me. I told her I used tampons so my hymen would probably be broken, plus I used to do gymnastics, martial arts, etc activity that could cause hymen breaking. Then she pulled it out and looked at me while I was crying but didn't say anything.

Afterwards, when I had gotten dressed, she told me something weird about my cervix and told me that it was going to hurt a lot the first time I had sex.

Luckily I'd had a good experience with a gyno the first time I went, so I wasn't afraid to go in to see a different doctor the next year.
sulingsi 20th-Jan-2005 11:11 pm (UTC)
well, i guess the reason she was opening up and wiggling the speculum was probably because she was having a hard time seeing your cervix due to unusual placement, or maybe she just wasn't that good at seeing it yet. it definitely sucks that she acted like such an amateur and didn't even apologize or say anything sympathetic when you were obviously in pain.
pinkgerbil 20th-Jan-2005 11:09 pm (UTC)
I was 17 years old , and at had to go in for an internal ultrasound of my uterus b/c i have endmitriosis. The tech found somthing odd,( a rather large cyst, not realted to the endo) and w/o asking me , left to get the resident gyno of the hospital , who looked at it , and then started feeling around up there. After that w/o asking me , he went and got a group of medical students to look, and told them to check me. At that point i freaked out , yanked my clothes back on and left in tears .( they never touched me) I still wasnt sexually active yet , and never had a boy " down there" and there was this man telling about 8 diff. people to feel me up , and he dident even bother to ask me.
My mom ended up contacting the hospital , and throwing a fit, and due to that not even our insurance company ever saw a bill, and they mailed all teh reports and xrays , and scans to us , along with a letter of apology . It was about that time i learned to stand up for myself and my hurts when i was in the doctors office , but what a shitty way to learn the lesson.
sulingsi 20th-Jan-2005 11:14 pm (UTC)
that's a classic example of the "teaching moment" mentality doctors get into. they see something interesting and they cease to remember the patient exists because it's a 'teaching moment'. i guess it's a function of doctors being people who have to be okay with basically studying and learning things for the rest of their lives, combined with the fact that sometimes people don't become doctors for the right reasons. :-/ i'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself. i probably would have just cried in the car and tried to forget it happened.
fierceawakening 20th-Jan-2005 11:10 pm (UTC)
Best thing: I have vaginismus. I asked the gyno at an exam if she could play some music for me to help me relax, as I could see a computer on the side of the room and something about internet radio on it. She said yes, but couldn't get it working. It meant a lot to me, though, that I could ask for something like that and not get puzzled looks or weird reactions.
sulingsi 20th-Jan-2005 11:16 pm (UTC)
awww... that's cute. i never would have thought that music would help like that... is it some particular kind of music that helps? i definitely think there is something emotionally pleasing about an exam room that is less institutional. the gyno office i used to work at was in an old victorian house, and the rooms were all decorated like normal rooms in a house except with sinks and exam tables. :-) it was nice.
habibi_xina Cranky gyno...20th-Jan-2005 11:27 pm (UTC)
I've had pretty good experiences with all of my gynos (I've been through about 4-5, all due to moving, not because of any problems...)...except for one dr. He wasn't my gyno -- I was referred to him for a colpo at Beth Israel Hospital in Boston because my regular gyno was unavailable. The guy was cranky and ornery, making me feel like it was my fault that I needed to have the colpo. What was even worse was when I get a phone call, a week later, asking me to reschedule because the lab lost all 4 of my biopsies. I needed to have more taken. Needless to say, I was pissed. However, I reschedule -- and I see the same cranky man. This time, he was a *little* nicer, but started to get cranky on me again because apparently it was my fault that I hadn't healed fast enough for him to take proper biopsies. I haven't had to see him since...but, my current gyno is fantastic -- at St Francis Hospital in Evanston, IL. Love her. I've only had to wait on her twice, because of emergency deliveries, but I can definitely wait for something like that. :)

Otherwise...a colleague last night told me her horror story: not being forewarned about a rectal exam. Oh, whoops. :) I've had rectals -- not a problem, though...mainly because the gyno has always forewarned me. But I had to laugh at her horror at the whole ordeal...she *refuses* to go to a gyno who does rectals...:)
blushingflower Re: Cranky gyno...20th-Jan-2005 11:36 pm (UTC)
Why would a gyno need to do a rectal? Unless you had complaints in that area...
crazykittylady 20th-Jan-2005 11:27 pm (UTC)
I went in for a pap and an IUD consult. The first thing the doctor said to me was, "So, why do you think you want an IUD." Then went on a tirade about how awful IUDs are and how I would one day marry a "boy" and he'd leave me if I'm unable to produce children because the IUD had perforated my uterus. Such bullshit. The attitude made me ill, she talked down to me like I didn't know the risks. It was quite annoying and frustrating, I wanted to slug her. Along with this attitude, she had almost no knowledge of the new research in IUDs in the last 10 years. As in zilch.
mangofandango 20th-Jan-2005 11:37 pm (UTC)
Wow. That's so awful! You have my sympathies.
mangofandango 20th-Jan-2005 11:36 pm (UTC)
My best experience was with the doctor who did my IUD insertion. I loved her, because she was really attentive and she actually listened to me - something many doctors don't do very well. She had concerns about giving me an IUD (because I'm young, basically), but she was willing to listen to my reasons and arguments. Basically, she took the time to actually have the conversation, and she treated me like I knew what I was talking about when she found out that I did (and I find that's also rare in doctors, but I'll get to that shortly).

When she actually did the insertion (and, actually, when we had a *second* consultation so we could talk more about it first!) she welcomed my spouse in with me, included him in the conversation, and explained to both of us what she was doing throughout the insertion process. She was also really gentle, and she just had this way about her that made me feel able to handle the pain of the insertion (which was considerable for me, even though it was quick.)
kragey 20th-Jan-2005 11:42 pm (UTC)
Actually, my gyno is wonderful. She's not very busy/heavily-booked, even though she's been around for years. [She did corrective surgery on my urinary tract when I was very very young.] She calls me every couple of weeks to see how I'm doing, what's going on in my life, if my genitals are being good, etcetera.
hallo_seele_ 21st-Jan-2005 01:26 am (UTC)
Aaaaah! Aaaaah! Jones Soda!!!! Mmmmmm.... I'd kill for a Jones Cream soda.
pepperedmoth 20th-Jan-2005 11:49 pm (UTC)
::shudder:: The very very first time I went in for a gyno appointment, I was horribly nervous. I wasn't yet eighteen (or maybe just turned eighteen?), but I was sexually active, and couldn't talk about it to my parents (it's three, four years later, and we STILL have an unspoken 'don't ask, don't tell' policy in place). So I go in, and they (the male doctor and female nurse) do the basic sexual history questions. When I said I was sexually active, the doctor told me that I shouldn't be at my age. He said that I shouldn't trust my boyfriend, and the nurse said he was probably sleeping around behind my back and would give me a disease. I told them we'd been monogamous for more than a year and always used condoms, and they didn't believe me. I tried to ask about other forms of birth control (I was interested in the diaphragm), and the doctor told me to try an aspirin tablet held between the knees. I left feeling guilty and awful and it took me until I was at college with an absolutely amazing RN to have another exam. I never went back to that doctor.
cosmicheart 21st-Jan-2005 12:01 am (UTC)
I'm sorry but that doctor was being a damn bitch. What the hell it doesn't concern him what you do with your life. YOu just came to be checked. What a stupid fuck.
view_from_here 20th-Jan-2005 11:53 pm (UTC)
I've only been to the gynocologist once. It was such a great experience. My doctor is sweet and gentle. She was explaining everything to me and showing me everything. When she got out the speculum, she showed me and kind of laughed and said, "I wouldn't worry, I'm sure your boyfriend's penis is bigger than this!" The fact that she's so nice and funny made the whole experience completely fine. I could've gone a second round! And after we were done she goes, "I have three other first time girls later today, I sure hope they're as good as you were!" :)
blushingflower 21st-Jan-2005 01:01 am (UTC)
Yeah, my first time was great too! The nurse took my weight and history, and asked if it was my first time. When I said yes, she explained what would happen, and showed me the speculum and everything. Then she left so I could undress and cover up (I got to keep my shirt on, but had to take off my bra, and obviously my pants and underpants). Then when the Dr. came in, she asked how I was. I said "nervous" and she asked if it was my first time. I said yes, and she said "well then you're allowed" and told me what she was doing as she did it, and warned me and everything. Then I got to put my clothes back on and we talked about birth control. It was a pretty good visit, and because of that office, I don't fear going to the gyno at all.
blurredlines 20th-Jan-2005 11:55 pm (UTC)
My worst medical experience - ever - was my OB-GYN when I was going into labour. I was induced at ten in the morning, saw him briefly, and then he left. I was nine centimetres dialated about ten that night, and about eleven I started to ask if I could push - and was told that my doctor had gone home. To his house on the other side of the city, a good 50 minutes away, and could I just wait to push until he got there?

Never in my life have I been so mad at a member of the medical profession, and with the amount of time that I've spent in hospitals, that's saying a lot.
sulingsi 21st-Jan-2005 02:52 am (UTC)
i can see that must have been very frustrating, but then again - i can see his side of things a little. i mean, you were induced at 10am, and then you're talking about pushing 12 hours later... i mean, doctors do have to have lives and stuff, sleep and eat like normal people. :-) it seems like it must have been hard to predict when you would actually deliver, and he can't be there 24/7, is all i'm saying.
sahara_beara 21st-Jan-2005 12:51 am (UTC)
No real medical story here, but I just want to ask that you never use the term "vaginal vault" when talking to a patient. It seems archaic and a little derogatory to me. My Sexualities teacher once told us that she heard her male vet use the term when referring to her dog's vagina and she commented, "Are you afraid of being locked out or in?"
sulingsi 21st-Jan-2005 02:56 am (UTC)
hahaha!! that's a great point i hadn't thought of before.
scarsnsouvenirs 21st-Jan-2005 01:16 am (UTC)
For my first ever gyn visit, I was scared to death--I left my apartment telling my roommate, "I'm probably going to die. I had a great time living with you. Please take good care of my fish and plant." When I actually met my doctor, she could sense my fear. But she was completely understanding about everything, and she really wanted it to be as positive an experience as possible for me. She explained the procedure in advance, and the exam was quick and gentle. Throughout the exam, she was chatty in a non-annoying way (I can't stand small talk), and she even asked about my belly ring and asked for advice since she was considering getting one. Afterwords, when I was clothed, she thoughtfully discussed my BC options and made sure to get the one that was right for me. I get the feeling that she's busy, but she wasn't rushed, and she genuinely cared. She's actually my favorite doctor I've ever visited. And I told her so.
cme2694 21st-Jan-2005 01:30 am (UTC)
I had gone to PP while I was in college, but now that's I'm grown up and have real insurance, I go to a regular doctors office.

So I went, and my doc was so-so. Complications later, I need a LEEP. My doc doesn't do it, but her male docter parter does. So I schedule, but am nervous.

I get to the hospital, get told to take all my jewerly out (which I had asked beforehand and they told me NO!), but then met the doc and the nurses and the medical students. My doc is a shorter asian man that looks about 12 who wears a bow-tie. Even if I was freaked out before, I was laughing now. I got a little overwhelmed at how many people there would be and the med student was like, "There's going to be a party! But it's BYOB!" I was completely at ease by then. So yeah, I go to this guy ever since.
mangosorbet007 21st-Jan-2005 01:30 am (UTC)
Oh, just another thing I remembered (I think I've posted the story here before): My second year in the U.S., I went to have a check-up. The doctor asked me all sorts of things, including what my sexual preference was - as a non-native speaker I was not really familiar with that term and kinda wondered why my preferred position/activity would be relevant. Then (thank GOD) the lightbulb came on and I said "heterosexual", saving him and me a lot of embarrassment. Ahh, those wacky Americans. :-)

Lesson: When dealing with people whose first language isn't English, be polite but, please!, be clear. :-)
goddessdi 21st-Jan-2005 01:38 am (UTC)
my worst experience was when I was having an ultrasound when I was pregnant. I had been have some spotting and had one really heavy spotting experience in the shower and it was my first ultrasound. The tech just kept moving the thing around and not saying anything and I couldn't hear a heartbeat or anything and my ex was just sitting there ignoring me because he wanted me to have an abortion. Then the tech went to get a doctor and they just sat there another few minutes (which seemed like hours) before they told me I had miscarried. I was devastated and the were just really clinical. It was horrible. I have a huge fear of it happening again when I do get pregnant again.
goddessdi 21st-Jan-2005 01:40 am (UTC)
I thought I should post a nice story too cuz that one is kind of depressing :P. My best experience was at a PP in Florida. The NP comment on the nipple piercings I had and gave me care advice and made sure I had gone to the good piercing shop in town. I was a little nervous at first she was going to give me crap for my piercings but she was really supportive.
fshk 21st-Jan-2005 02:08 am (UTC)
I haven't had a bad experience, but how I found my current gyno is kind of amusing. I picked her at random from my insurance company's list of doctors, because I liked her name. My instincts were right; I was really nervous about the appointment, but it went fine, and now I really like her. She has all this New Age-y stuff in the exam room: soothing music and one of those little miniature fountain thingies with water bubbling in it. It worked: she made me feel really at ease, and the first exam was no sweat. Also, she gives out BC pill samples like they're candy.

The only bad thing is that the first time I saw her, I had to wait in the waiting room for almost two hours! I had to cancel my dinner plans while I waited.
lannagayle 21st-Jan-2005 02:50 am (UTC)
I posted this in another post before, but i'll just copy and paste. :)

I was seeing an ob/gyn at 16 because I was having really painful periods. She put me on Ortho Tri Cyclen because she thought it might help. It did, for 4 years. When I was 20, she decided to switch me to the patch because "everyone is using it and loves it." I started experiencing severe pelvic pain in February of 2004, so I called her office. The nurse was rude and told me to take a pregnancy test. Even when I told her that the pain was too bad for me to be sexually active, she insisted that I call her back the next week after taking a test. So I did, and it was negative, as predicted. She told me to call back in a month if the symptoms persisted. I called back a few weeks later and she begrudgingly agreed to make me an appointment. When I saw the doctor (after missing lots of school and work), she said that it was probably nothing. She did an exam and I almost kicked her in the head because it hurt so badly, but she didnt think it was a problem. She insisted that it was all in my head. She ordered an ultrasound to "rule things out" and it showed fluid in my pelvis. She didn't know why it was there and wasn't concerned about it. She said that it must be from cysts developing and rupturing, but she had no idea why. Needless to say, I switched doctors almost immediately. The new doctor diagnosed me with endometriosis the first visit. Based on symptoms and the fact that endo runs in my family. Some people are downright ridiculous.
sulingsi 21st-Jan-2005 03:04 am (UTC)
wow, pelvic pain and endo are like, an immediate association in my mind. and offices are supposed to have next day appointments open for acute complaints like yours, so the fact the nurse kept putting you off should be a big red flag. i know for me usually, if i wait even a day on UTI symptoms or something, the nurse will always be like "why didn't you come right away?"
pavedingold 21st-Jan-2005 02:50 am (UTC)
I actually just switched over from a bad gyno to a wonderful gyno that work out of the same practice. The first dr. did my LEEP and all the followups that go with that, but he always made me feel really ignorant about my body and just bad about myself. Plus he always made me really nervous - not for any good reason, but just made me feel like neither myself nor my vagina were very important.

The other practitioner in the same office had given me my veryfirst exam, and she is absolutely the nicest person ever. It took three or four angry phone calls from my mom to finally switch me over to her from the other guy (who my mom didn't like either), and I couldn't be happier. She made me feel totally relaxed, showed concern that I was eating well, taking care of myself, exercising. She stressed the importance of general wellness, something my GP doesn't even bother to mention anymore. All in all, it was an entirely positive experience for me. I even told her about this community!
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