3:23 am - 06/24/2004

Au naturale = too much ass hair?!?

So I have a male friend who has a huuuuuge phobia of hair. I already knew this since I noticed that he shaves his arms. (Head hair, eyebrows, and eyelashes remain. I don't know if he shaves his legs or not.)

I've learned that his phobia spreads to women. In fact, he broke up with a girl because he was feeling her up and became convinced that she had ass hair.

Now. Am I incorrect to assume that unless it gets waxed, that all women have hair in that vicinity? Because I know I do. Lots of it. It's not the most socially beautiful thing ever, but it's the same thing as pubic hair. right? And correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think there's a way to get rid of it besides waxing. (I sure as hell am not putting a razor up there.)

So. I'm not questioning anyone's personal preference with their own hair, but has any chick gotten negative feedback about having hair there? I know I never have, but now I'm wondering if it's that big of a deal.

Thanks. =)
anyoldname 24th-Jun-2004 03:38 am (UTC)
There's certainly nothing unusual or abnormal about it. A guy who would break up with a woman over it has got problems.
puttysan 24th-Jun-2004 03:40 am (UTC)
I have a very little bit of ass hair, but I'm generally hairless over my entire body. I've never had a guy even say anything, let alone complain. I try shaving it once, but that just didn't work, and my Nair doesn't reach well there. So I just don't bother.

I'd assume this guy is the exception, rather than the rule.
misusedmuse 24th-Jun-2004 03:51 am (UTC)
I did from one boyfriend. He was just a jerk. He wasn't bothered by it, but he talked about it. Even though I know it's not abnormal, it was a sensitive subject and he was only talking about it and making fun of it to be a jerk. Not to be like "but I love it!"

Some boys are just mean.
malantha 24th-Jun-2004 10:38 am (UTC)
some people are just mean.
misusedmuse 24th-Jun-2004 11:47 am (UTC)
That's true as well.

But I was specifically talking about a particular boy.
butterflieanjel 24th-Jun-2004 04:38 am (UTC)
Humans have hair follicles (and theoretically hair) everywhere but their eye lids, their lips, the palms of their hands, and the bottoms of their feet. Whether or not the hair is colored is a different story entirely.
eternalmaiden 24th-Jun-2004 05:19 am (UTC)
I've got hair on me bum. Not that I think there is anything wrong with it, but whenever my boyfriend trims my pubic hair, he does that as well. Beard trimmers are awesome. It is not a one person operation though. The only time my man has said anything about it is if he notices that it's time for a trim, or if I ask him if I need trimming. It's not that big of a deal. Anyone that makes a big deal out of it probably has other related issues (or watches too much porn :P)
isolt 24th-Jun-2004 05:20 am (UTC)
I have a very very small amount of ass hair. I'm not generally a very hairy person (and usually take a pass on shaving), and my (one and only) partner doesn't mind at all, and, having never said anything about my ass hair, I assume it's a non-issue.

I agree with you, waxing would probably be the best way to get it off. I can't imagine taking a razor to my ass. Ouch! I'm fairly certain I'd nick myself a few times, and that's not a pleasant thought at all.

I generally feel like people who are going to make appearance demands like that on others should be willing to meet them themselves. Any boy not willing to have his own ass hair waxed off (or not brave enough to use a razor) shouldn't be asking that of anyone else. I assume you haven't take a look at this guy's ass, but I'd probably challenge him with that if he brings up any girl's ass hair again. :)
blackperson 24th-Jun-2004 05:26 am (UTC)
Well I have it and it bothers me so I get rid of it. But I don't think (unless you have massive amounts) that guys would care. Most guys are so excited to have sex that they aren't obsessed with the minor details of the person. And if they love you they really won't care.

Think about it, I don't like ass hair on them either but I deal. They can as well.
book_wyrm completely off topic, sorry24th-Jun-2004 06:18 am (UTC)
I just had to say I *love* your icon!

*laughing*
blackperson Re: completely off topic, sorry24th-Jun-2004 06:27 am (UTC)
Thanks.

It had to be done.

*smiles*
dokuya 27th-Jun-2004 08:53 am (UTC)
yeah, i like your icon, too!
annablume 24th-Jun-2004 06:21 am (UTC)
I have some hair there. I actually shave it - because I shave most of my cunt and it would look sort of odd if I left the ass hair. For me - it's easier to shave that area than my bikini line - as it is much less prone to razor bumps, even if it's a little harder to reach.
alitaorg 24th-Jun-2004 09:48 am (UTC)
do you have any particular shaving method? like using shaving cream or lotion? just curious.
illboner 24th-Jun-2004 10:48 pm (UTC)
soap works just fine
alitaorg 29th-Jun-2004 10:33 pm (UTC)
oof! i get the worst razor burn ever when i use soap. sucks to have such sensitive skin.
annablume 25th-Jun-2004 09:35 am (UTC)
I actually like to use an electric razor - even though the hair must be very short which means I have to touch up almost every day. It's the only think I've found that really leave no rough, stubbly hair that ends up chafing me and my partner. Not the round head kind, but the flat type with all the little circular holes. Your skin has to be very dry, and a little powder will help the electric razor glide over the skin.
shesaleo 19th-Jul-2004 07:25 am (UTC)
If razor burn is a problem for you I would seriously suggest finding a sex shop in your area and asking them if they carry "Coochy Shave Cream" - or you can order it if shopping sex shops for it is a little daunting. The good thing about this cream is it works on sensitive legs and underarms too.
alitaorg 20th-Jul-2004 11:40 pm (UTC)
oooooooooh.
harpseal 24th-Jun-2004 06:33 am (UTC)
ACK Ass hair. I have it, I hate it, even thought it's normal. The ones that bother me the most are the ones that don't stay in the crack area, but 3 or 4 of them pop out on my cheeks. I Pluck them. My biggest Peeve is when I sit on them funny and they pull. OWW...

But yeah ass hair, pain in the ass, but normal.
drunkengrl119 24th-Jun-2004 06:38 am (UTC)
I shave it occasionally, if Im gonna do some shaving down there anyways but usually I forget! It doesnt bother my boyfriend but he likes a lot of ass play so he gets excited when its shaved bc his tounge is down there but its no big deal. He prefers me to have hair down in my vulva region anyway as opposed to being shaven, besides places his face will be down in, so hair is no big deal. Ive never had a problem shaving there, I do it in the bathtub and its actually pretty easy. Granted Im not 100% precise in getting rid of every patch, just a few careful swipes. Any guy who is a jerk about that sort of thing is ridiculous, just remind him that your sure he has a ton more ass hair then you'll ever have. I know my boy does.
gemfyre 24th-Jun-2004 06:41 am (UTC)
I have some hair in that area right where my legs meet, under my vagina... it's hard to describe exactly where. It's not all over my butt and up my arse crack but there is just a bit there which I have always figured to be normal. It just really pisses me off to get blood stuck all through it when I have my period.
wundermuffin 24th-Jun-2004 06:47 am (UTC)
i have some, but a normal amount. i don't get rid of any body hair except my armpits, and i pluck my eyebrows. my legs are hairy most of the time, and i've never seen a guy notice THAT even.

i think every guy i've ever gotten naked with has been so excited at the prospect of getting laid that he's not hung up on dumb things like body hair. i think your friend deserves to have women who he's about to do recoil in horror at all his possible imperfections.
jillette 24th-Jun-2004 07:18 am (UTC)
I have a normal amount of hair and regularly and meticulously shave it. I shave the vulva so it just makes sense to shave this hair too. Also it is much cleaner for all hygene.
jennifer0246 24th-Jun-2004 03:35 pm (UTC)
personal preferences are wonderful, but i'd like to correct that shaving makes you cleaner. cleaning makes you cleaner. shaving makes you less hairy.
alitaorg 24th-Jun-2004 07:55 pm (UTC)
i totallly agree.

in fact....new post! =D
cailin_t 24th-Jun-2004 07:18 am (UTC)
wow, that's really interesting to me! i don't, but i'm a very non-hairy person in general. i only have to shave my legs every few weeks, etc. and the hair that grows is so sparse. my arms don't have any. it's kinda freaky, actually. :x
never1eighty 24th-Jun-2004 07:44 am (UTC)
What an ass. I'm pretty darn hairy (and my brother is hairless, go figure) and after being called monkey-girl at school, I shaved EVERYTHING for awhile. Gave up on that (shave only my armpits, legs occasionally). I've so got ass hair and I don't care. My husband mentioned how hairy I was down there once so I told him that I'd shave if he did. So he did. And when it started growing back, he realized why I never do it. Me: 1, Hubby: 0. *g*
thekat03 24th-Jun-2004 08:09 am (UTC)
i think that while having ass hair is perfectly normal, i'm not going to say he's screwed up for wanting a girl who doesn't have any hair on her ass
after all, there are guys that are squicked by various other natural phenomena, like menstrual periods, and those guys aren't neccessarily screwed up (just naive)
i think he just needs to realize that he's going to have a hard time finding a girl who either naturally doesn't have much or any hair in that region, or a girl who is willing to remove or have it removed on a regular basis
he may not realize just how many women tend to have at least a little hair around their ass, and realizing that might make him think and possibly try to get past his phobia (or at least be a little more forgiving of the next girl he dates who happens to have a slightly fuzzy ass)
femmearchetype 24th-Jun-2004 08:56 am (UTC)
nothing wrong with ass hair.
i have it and prefer it not be there, at least for now. i get in moods when it comes to the hair down there.
but why one would BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE because of that, i have no idea.
i would never make my man shave and he would never ask me to do anything to myself.
that's just silly.
krasota 24th-Jun-2004 09:23 am (UTC)
I have very little. I didn't have any hair below about the midpoint of my labia major until the last couple of years (I'm 28). I don't have a lot of body hair and what I do have is very straight, relatively fine, sparse, and lighter-colored.

I've never had complaints, though. I've had comments along the lines of "shave or don't shave, but please don't have stubble", so I rarely shave. The upkeep is a bitch. ;) I trim sometimes, if my hair gets longer than a couple inches, but I only shave my bikini line for the 3-4 hairs which might show outside of a swimsuit, and only when I'm going to be swimming with folks who care, which isn't often. Since it's straight, it can get long and is easily caught in teeth (be they human or zipper).


homemade_sign 24th-Jun-2004 10:51 am (UTC)
I shave mine.
jennnk 24th-Jun-2004 12:46 pm (UTC)
do you mean hair ON the asscheeks, or in the crack?

because i've never seen a woman with hair ON her ass, but everyone i know has some hair in the crack.

not to say that if a woman has hair ON her ass it's abnormal, just that none of my friends do.

regardless of what is normal or abnormal, this guy's a fuckstick and deserves a quick kick to the nads.

kidding. sort of.
ady2 13th-Jul-2004 08:04 pm (UTC)
Hi. I was just going thru and i was reading what you said,
I have hair on my ass cheeks...i dont know if thas normal or not? I think its due to a medicine i took and my mom once told me it was because of that =/
jennnk 14th-Jul-2004 12:12 am (UTC)
well "normal" is relative. if hair suddenly sprouts where it wasn't before (post-puberty, of course...hair sprouts weirdly during puberty), for YOU, that would be abnormal. some people are hairier than others, and if medicine made you sprout hair, then for YOU, it's abnormal, but for someone else, it might be totally normal b/c she's had it all her life. i just know that of my female friends, none of us have asscheek hair, but it's no biggie.
alitaorg 15th-Jul-2004 11:33 pm (UTC)
i've always been fuzzy everywhere. it'd take a lot of wax to get it all out. however, the fuzz on the actual cheeks is the same fuzz on, say, my stomach - not much, and it's small and light-colored. hope that helps at all.
jennnk 15th-Jul-2004 11:59 pm (UTC)
nah, i wouldn't even call that hair. i'd call it peach fuzz.
lizzie_borden 24th-Jun-2004 02:57 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry, this is totally unrelated..

But I was looking through a friend's friends list, and came across your entry, and I have to say that you've got one of the funniest lj icons I've ever seen. Good work!
alitaorg 24th-Jun-2004 07:56 pm (UTC)
i actually got permission to use it from someone else in this community. use it if you'd like! =)
forfeited_soul 24th-Jun-2004 10:17 pm (UTC)
i agree!
your icon is great!
alitaorg 24th-Jun-2004 07:54 pm (UTC)
yeah, i meant crack hair.
kixxy 24th-Jun-2004 11:10 pm (UTC)
If I think it's particularly long at the time, I might take my razor and do a quick swipe - no soap or anything. I keep my front bare most of the time [personal preference] and it just looks funny to me if the back mismatches a lot. So it's not really for anyone else, just a personal thing.

I think it's just one of those inevitables and most people realize that. I hope so, anyway!
mactavish 26th-Jun-2004 11:21 am (UTC)
I've got butt hair, have a great sex life, have had a few great lovers, and have never had one complaint about my butt hair.
ibz1492 Ass hair shaving2nd-Oct-2010 06:12 am (UTC)
Shaving one's ass is not dangerous or difficult at all. Compared to my shaving my balls and shaft of my penis, shaving the ass is easy. Once you get the first shave done, if you do it on a regular basis, maybe once a week, it is easy to do in the shower with no cream, no anything. And it is easier for a girl to get at it than a guy. Go for it, we guys typically won't say much about it, but trust me when I say that we prefer you smooth around the ass. I like to shave for my partner but most men don't or won't, and that is the only reason guys don't ask their partners to shave there.
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