10:58 am - 04/21/2014

MMMMonday! Personal assumptions.



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Today, in the spirit of (and inspired by) Shakesville's questions of the day: What are some erroneous assumptions people make about you? Why do you think the assumptions are made? Do they bother you? Are those assumptions ever an asset? We'd just like to get some discussion going in comments, so if you're moved to, hop on in!
dkwgdk 24th-Apr-2014 01:53 am (UTC)
People assume that I am married and have children, because most women my age (and in my peer group) are married and have kids. I live in a mid-sized city in the South, but when I go home to the Northeast the assumption about marriage and kids is less pronounced. Those who know I'm not married now often assume I am divorced. Again, I think it has to do with how many women are married and divorced -- it's statistically likely that I'm NOT single.

People also assume I'm Christian, which again has to do with statistical likelihood. Most folks haven't ever met an atheist. (I also avoid 'outing' myself as an atheist because, again, the South. People want you to be Christian, even if it's "only" Unitarian.) It's been suggested to me that I have depression because I'm an atheist. ("If you just prayed more / believed in something / etc. you wouldn't be depressed.")

The best thing that has happened to me as I've gotten older is that I give much less of a damn about what other people think.
inked_athena Actually a lot of folks have met atheists...28th-Feb-2015 07:39 pm (UTC)
but they didn't realize it at the time because the atheists didn't have "I'm an atheist" tattooed on their foreheads. Lol. I live in the South, too, and know tons of folks who self-identify as atheist, agnostic, etc. But I also hang out with folks in the artistic community, for lack of a better term. It's all about the subculture you immerse yourself in, not the part of the country you live in.

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