10:58 am - 04/21/2014

MMMMonday! Personal assumptions.



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Today, in the spirit of (and inspired by) Shakesville's questions of the day: What are some erroneous assumptions people make about you? Why do you think the assumptions are made? Do they bother you? Are those assumptions ever an asset? We'd just like to get some discussion going in comments, so if you're moved to, hop on in!
ginny587 22nd-Apr-2014 01:40 pm (UTC)
Assumption: Because I'm underweight, I am trying very hard to maintain an unrealistic body image and need help realizing that I just don't look attractive or healthy being rail thin. Reality: my metabolism is too fast for me to keep up with.
It's quite common in many areas for excessive thinness to be bashed in favor of larger, curvier types and the assumption seems to be that the unintentionally thin don't have any confidence issues and don't mind being constantly put down. I have had people put more food on my plate, question my eating and exercise habits, a friend even once held up a piece of clothing in my size while shopping and loudly proclaimed that "this clothing's existence promotes completely unrealistic body ideals and shouldn't exist."
Yes, media does skew healthy body ideals. Dieting and losing weight are a huge part of magazines aimed at women and there is a serious photoshop problem. Hurtful comments are also, I'm assuming, part of life for those who are at the other end of the spectrum. It just seems to be frequently overlooked and ignored that these kinds of comments and actions can be hurtful for those of us labeled as "too thin."
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