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MMMMonday! Personal assumptions.



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Today, in the spirit of (and inspired by) Shakesville's questions of the day: What are some erroneous assumptions people make about you? Why do you think the assumptions are made? Do they bother you? Are those assumptions ever an asset? We'd just like to get some discussion going in comments, so if you're moved to, hop on in!
nightchild01 22nd-Apr-2014 04:09 am (UTC)
What are some erroneous assumptions people make about you?
People assume I'm a cishet woman when I'm a genderqueer FAAB, pan person. Also that I'm whatever religion they are, especially if they're Christian and I've gone to church with my dad to keep him company, despite the fact I always wear a visible symbol of my faith. Also that I'm younger than I am.

Why do you think the assumptions are made?
Because I have classic length (bottom of my butt) hair, even though I usually wear men's clothes (I think I'd read feminine to people even if I had a binder), am married to a cishet man, and I don't correct people on my faith unless they ask. I do correct honorifics but my pronouns are feminine so it lets them assume. I'm short and have a baby face.

Do they bother you?
Usually.

Are those assumptions ever an asset?
Sometimes. Sometimes it's safer/easier to let people make their own assumptions about me than to be fully open with every person I meet. I'm not old enough (27) to have had people finding me 5+ years younger than I am an asset.

Edited at 2014-04-22 04:13 am (UTC)
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