10:58 am - 04/21/2014

MMMMonday! Personal assumptions.



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Today, in the spirit of (and inspired by) Shakesville's questions of the day: What are some erroneous assumptions people make about you? Why do you think the assumptions are made? Do they bother you? Are those assumptions ever an asset? We'd just like to get some discussion going in comments, so if you're moved to, hop on in!
eavanmoore 21st-Apr-2014 07:41 pm (UTC)
People very often assume that I'm a student and/or five years younger than I actually am. It does bother me, intensely, because it results in patronizing behaviour -- sometimes from people who are younger than I am. It makes me feel like the way I carry myself, the way I look and the way I approach the world aren't 'adult' enough. I've been told that I'll appreciate this later, but I'm not sure that's true. My mother still has brown hair at age 62 and it hasn't been a blessing for her.
nightengalesknd 21st-Apr-2014 10:57 pm (UTC)
I get the "look younger" thing too. I was a high school teacher and the father of one of my students told me he thought I was also a student. In front of his teenaged daughter. That was. . . over a decade ago and I still get disbelief that I'm my age. I've finally stopped getting offered children's menus in restaurants, at least.

I'm 37 and haven't started appreciating it yet. I've considered dying my hair grey, but I figured, if I wouldn't dye my grey hair brown, it would be hypocritical of me to dye my brown hair grey.
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