10:31 pm - 03/23/2014

How often do you have sex?

For those in and not in relationships, how often do you have sex a week? And what positions do you usually do? Is it always enjoyable every time? 
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slinkslowdown 24th-Mar-2014 02:33 am (UTC)
Not in a relationship and I have sex at most, twice a year.

I use all sorts of positions--I love doggy most. I always enjoy it, even if I never orgasm from it.
jes0704 24th-Mar-2014 02:35 am (UTC)
I'm married and have sex at least three times a week and it always enjoyable and I have an orgasm at least 95 percent of the time. We do different positions but he my husband loves when I'm on top and I like to be in control.
kate_mct 24th-Mar-2014 02:41 am (UTC)
I haven't had sex with another person in 10+ years, but I masturbate frequently, sometimes once or twice a day depending on how close to my period I am.
lanalucy 24th-Mar-2014 02:51 am (UTC)
What kate_mct said.

It's not always fun, because frankly, my own hands don't really turn me on, but I achieve orgasm nearly 100% of the time.
sarahrose 24th-Mar-2014 02:52 am (UTC)
I'm a virgin. 27 years old, masturbating for 13+ years, about 5 times a week.
tisha313 24th-Mar-2014 02:59 am (UTC)
are you saving yourself for marriage?
wolfteaparty 24th-Mar-2014 03:18 am (UTC)
Lately, about once a week to every two weeks... I wish it was more, but my migraines have become chronic (migraines make sex impossible), and my partner is often exhausted due to his work schedule or how severe his allergies are (though it's hard not to worry sometimes that maybe he isn't attracted to me, as much as he reassures me he is...)

Usually missionary, sometimes spooning. I think my partner wishes for some more girl on top, but I am overweight and have a very poor body image so it's emotionally distressing for me to be on top--it makes me feel ugly. Even though they all feel good, the other positions are easier for me because they make it easier to forget what my body looks like.

It always is enjoyable, even though I am unable to orgasm from penetrative sex. I wish I was capable of it. I'm jealous of people who are.

Edited at 2014-03-24 03:19 am (UTC)
makale_83 24th-Mar-2014 03:21 am (UTC)
I'm married... We currently have 2 little girls that drive us insane (love them but man are they a handful!) the oldest is 4 an the youngest is 1. The 1 year old has slept through the night... twice in her whole life. (And those 2 glorious nights happened very recently.) Hubby is always stressed from school (he's about to graduate with his undergrad) and I'm always stressed from a messy house/crazy kids/part time student/working 40+ hrs a week/and I'm active duty military. So... we have sex, probably 1 time every 2 or 3 weeks. LOL

It's awful b/c I wish it was more and so does he but we are so exhausted so often that right now it's just hard to find time for it. One day!!! That, and a maid!! ;)

Our three favorite positions are missionary, girl on top, and doggy.

Edited at 2014-03-24 03:25 am (UTC)
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archangelbeth 24th-Mar-2014 03:57 am (UTC)
Weekly? Oh, I wish. Between exhaustion and/or lack of privacy and/or lack of time, we're down to maybe a few times a month. Usually non-PIV for various reasons, and it's generally entertaining for at least one of us (sometimes time/exhaustion/just-not-in-the-mood = non-reciprocation).

I could also wish that I did not tend to get mildly randy at times when there is no privacy, like in the afternoon when the kid is off doing homework in her room right next to the bedroom, with the relatively thin walls. *headdesk* Or when the spouse is off doing errands for his now kinda housebound relatives. *headdesk more*

But we cuddle every night! O:>
classical_wolf 24th-Mar-2014 10:32 am (UTC)
Weekly? Oh, I wish. Between exhaustion and/or lack of privacy and/or lack of time, we're down to maybe a few times a month. Usually non-PIV for various reasons, and it's generally entertaining for at least one of us (sometimes time/exhaustion/just-not-in-the-mood = non-reciprocation). - I could have written this!

archangelbeth: So sorry for the essay below! I was rambling!

I feel like my sex drive is much lower than his is, I have the likeliness of falling asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow, and sometimes my chronic hand (related) pain acts up. I feel like I am (the odd duck which is) in the mood at the most inopportune times (when I'm on the train commuting, when I'm at work, IE: Places/times which have nothing to do with my husband).

I think what it really is (too), is that for some reason when we do foreplay and he's using two fingers it hurts and yet one finger and then his penis are fine. Conclusion: Two fingers oddly cause pain, and yes, we're using enough lube! It's not his nails, it's not where he's hitting, maybe it's how I'm being opened/stretched with two fingers. ....I have no idea!

We usually do things that are non-PIV for the most part. As for maybe non-PIV - maybe once/twice a week. As for PIV - two/four times a month maybe.

We also cuddle every night! We love cuddling! :)

Edited at 2014-03-24 10:36 am (UTC)
mutedsapphire 24th-Mar-2014 04:28 am (UTC)
It used to be a couple times a week but my fiancé and I haven't had sex since the end of November! I'm pregnant (currently about 3 weeks from my due date) so it started getting uncomfortable around that time. We decided it was better to wait until after the baby was born. Our favorite positions are missionary and girl on top.
meshuggenah42 24th-Mar-2014 05:08 am (UTC)
I'm a few months behind you. What positions did you like when you were still able to have comfortable sex while pregnant?
svexsal 24th-Mar-2014 04:33 am (UTC)
Not in a relationship but currently fooling around with someone I love as a friend.
He's 30 years older (I'm 31) and we typically find that either me on top or doggy style is best. Any sort of position where clitoral stimulation is possible is preferable as I never climax from penetration alone.
It happens about twice or three times a month.

Edited at 2014-03-24 04:34 am (UTC)
brytewolf 24th-Mar-2014 04:51 am (UTC)
Been in a monogamous relationship for over three years, we usually have sex about 2 to 3 times a week. Would like more, but our schedules are wonky and too tired a lot of the times. :)

Position wise, it's usually missionary or doggy, and every once in a while I'll be on top. I can't orgasm from penetration, but I always enjoy myself. And my clit gets frequent attention from his tongue!
butterflybee260 24th-Mar-2014 04:59 am (UTC)

Once or twice a week at the moment, with a FWB. I wish it was more often but he works a lot. We have sex in missionary or doggy usually, and it's fine but doesn't last very long because...well...he comes really quick. But he always gets me off with oral beforehand so I'm happy lol. We're working on prolonging the actual sex part.
trinity85 24th-Mar-2014 06:42 am (UTC)
I haven't had sex in over 6 years. I don't miss it though. Sex would be quite painful for me because my endometriosis/etc is SO bad.
snatchbeast 24th-Mar-2014 07:25 am (UTC)
I'm not in a relationship but I have sex a couple of times a year.

Mostly missionary and doggie style, although sometimes I'll get on top. It's always enjoyable, and I get off many times. I love sex.
sleek_asashriek 24th-Mar-2014 07:36 am (UTC)
I'm in a relationship and my boyfriend and I have PIV sex usually twice a week. If we are/one of us is too tired from work probably one of those PIVs will be oral instead, not exclusively reciprocated every time. If there is a long weekend/we spend a lot of time together during a weekend, there might be a third time when PIV ensues. Oral and mutual masturbation always happen several times unless we have the "tired from work" situation described above.
We both love doggy style and it's the one we most perform. Then missionary and girl on top.
Oral and masturbation are enjoyable every time. PIV too but, at least for me, if my brain is faster into it than my vagina, it can hurt at the beginning. By this I mean I can be really horny and wanting it but maybe I'm not wet/stretched enough. There are times in which we jump into sex wanting it bad but, if foreplay isn't prolonged a bit more, it might hurt awhile until my vagina gets used to being penetrated.

Edited at 2014-03-24 07:42 am (UTC)
tsemed_chemed 25th-Mar-2014 11:26 pm (UTC)
I find it so frustrating when my body doesn't get to where my brain is at when I want it to!
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